My question involves adoption law for the State of: California
I didn't see a forum that related to my exact topic, so I thought that I would start here. I live with my long term boyfriend, we have no plans of marrying as neither of us want to be married. He has two children with his ex wife whom he shares 50% legal and physical custody. She has always been very supportive of my role in the children's lives and, on many occasions, has said how thankful she is that I am here, how much the kids love me, if me and guy ever ended things, she'd want me to still be part of the kids' lives, etc.. However, lately, something has changed and she has become very territorial. She is trying to keep me from attending parent / teacher conferences, receiving communication from the school, bringing the kids to Dr.'s appointments, etc. My boyfriend very much wants me to have access to all of this information, attend meetings, etc as I am essentially a step-mom without the legal marriage. My question is this: does the bio mom have the right to over-ride the bio dad's choice to have me involved in school meetings, access to communication, bringing to Dr.'s appointments, etc.? Would my access or "rights" be different if we were married? Or does a person need to become a legal guardian to have access to these things if one of the parents object? I am hopeful that the tides will once again change, but in the meantime, I'd like to understand what she has the power to do, legally. Thank you!