My girlfriend has been disabled for years and has received SSI. We recently moved in together (in the state of Texas), and after changing her information on file with the SSA, we were called in for an update.
The rep at the SSA gave us two choices for our "living arrangement" - Friends, or Common Law married. We have never presented ourselves as married, and although we are in a relationship, we keep a roommate-like situation due to her very limited income and my inability to support her financially.
Regardless, he informed us that unless we were strictly friends, then we were required to say "common-law", and now the SSA has a sworn statement from us saying that we present ourselves to the community as husband and wife, which is COMPLETELY UNTRUE!
Based on my income, they completely cancelled her benefits and told her that as long as she lives at my address, she cannot appeal the decision. She tried to explain that our living situation isn't common-law, and the phone rep at the SSA said "well that sounds a lot like fraud..." Unbelievable!
Her own mother (according to SSA) wasn't responsible for supporting her when she lived with her (thus she received SSI), so why should I be? I'm just her boyfriend, and we haven't even been together for that long!
I'm not sure what to do at this point! I can't support her, and if she can't pay her part of the bills, she is going to have to move back home with her mom, which is a very toxic environment for her.