How to Move Out of My Parents Home

**LostInSpaceSinceBirth** · 07-23-2012, 09:32 AM

My question involves court procedures for the state of: Georgia

Greetings,
I am hoping someone can provide me with a little direction as to what can be done legally in this situation. I'm 28 years-old and am currently living under what I would almost describe as a hostage situation. My entire life has been spent at the same address with my parents due to threats of everything from injury resulting in permanent disability, death and even prosecution if I left or made any attempt to leave, get married or have any type of social/personal life whatsoever. I've had a total of 3 jobs in my entire life all of which were lost either because I could not show up due to my extremely restrained life(being beat or told I'd be beat if I went to work on certain days) or lost because of receiving constant calls and visits from family(to keep up with me) to the point I was not able to fulfill the duties of my jobs. Shortly after losing the 3rd job I was involved in a car accident that left me with a head injury resulting in my being disabled by near daily chronic migraines and cluster headaches. About 2 years ago I was additionally diagnosed with a severe case of interstitial cystitis which keeps me from doing quite a lot of things including walking, and being able to take care of myself and my most basic needs due to the severe pain. I am NOT provided food, clothing, soap, shampoo anything at all. I am not able to work and even if I was I've been told I cannot have a job, I have also been threatened and warned I cannot goto school after my attempt at getting my GED was blocked by the same people(parents) who've kept me in isolation my entire life.

As some might imagine most of my life has been lived in utter fear because of the extreme mental, physical and sexual abuse I have been subjected to time and time again and am still subject to or threatened with. I have considered going to the police on many occasions however I have been warned numerous times that if I "made the stupid mistake of talking to the police, I would regret it the rest of my life". My mother has gone as far as to say she would have her father slap her around to bloody her nose and lip so she could say that I DID IT and said she would claim I attempted to rape her all to have me prosecuted for trying to leave she has also made threats she would harm or kill herself or other family members and make it appear as if I was responsible just to ensure she ruins my life.

I have never threatened my parents or family for that matter, never touched my family nor has there ever been a report of this, however I made the mistake of asking to goto a therapist roughly 3-4 months ago to deal with some of the psychological effects of the sexual abuse I even told my mother at the time I had no intent of getting police involved just wanted some help as I have no one to talk to I do not have a single friend, girlfriend or anyone; the only people I have contact with are my mother, father and grand father all of whom have abused me and the only time I am spoken to is when I am being degraded, threatened or told I cannot do something.

Last month I was arrested at gun/tazer point on what is called a "green warrant", the warrant signed by my mother and father stated I was seeing my Dr EVERY WEEK(when I see a urologist only once a month and no other Dr's) and that they'd been providing me I believe $150 a week to purchase methadone(which I am prescribed to manage some of the pain I deal with daily, but is only filled once a month and the cost is only $22 not $150.). The warrant or court order also claimed I had threatened to kill myself numerous times(which is also not true) and that I HAD attempted to kill myself by overdose almost 2 weeks before(also not true and impossible as my mother keeps my medication in her possession) the court order had been taken out on me. Furthermore it stated I had basically quarantined a portion of their home and would not allow anyone in that part of the home or else I would threaten them, throw things and threaten myself which is also not true and I'm not capable of doing this anyway with my extremely limited movement. The only rooms I was basically allowed in was the room that was supposed to be my bedroom I was not allowed to even leave the room to use the bathroom, I was FORCED the last 5-6 years to use buckets, bags and bottles to relieve myself in if I was at home. I was held in the hospital because of the court order for an evaluation and released because I was found not to be a threat to myself or others.

The suicide thing and court orders have been in my life the past few years the most recent being about 2 years ago, in total there has been maybe 4-5 times I've been held for evaluation. My parents have not only forced me into these places and forced/threatened me into lying to the staff by saying I was responsible, but they've also held me down and provided the injuries which they would claim were self inflicted. They've been trying for quite sometime now to use the wreck I was involved in to get me declared mentally incompetent both so they can get what they call a "mental disability" check in my name to keep for themselves(which they've already said they intend to keep) but also this most recent warrant was claimed by my mother to make sure that I looked like the problem if I ever tried to say or do anything legally involving this matter so it would look like I was taking vengeance for the court order. I was also told that even if I tried to talk to police or anyone else and by some chance it DID end up in court(granted I survived long enough to make it); the court would not take me seriously because of the mental history they've built up around me by doing everything from holding me down and cutting my arms to punching me to get me to scream so pills could be poured down my throat. I am a very small guy, do not weigh much at all and suffer from a wide range of medical problems and do not receive adequate food so it's practically impossible for me to be able to fight or defend myself in any manner and even if I could fight someone off they have guns which I have been threatened with. In-fact my mother is a CCW carrier which she openly brags she isn't supposed to have because of the mind altering medications she's prescribed on a regular basis by her doctor(s), likewise my grandfather is a violent convicted felon who spent time in prison more than once from what I'm told who isn't supposed to possess a firearm yet my mother and father have knowingly purchased and provided him firearms on more than one occasion. Firearms which would later be used in threatening me as well as threatening others which I'd be inclined to be believe since hes supposedly been suspected in the involvement of more than one persons death and brags about others to add weight to his threats.

I realize this has gotten a little long, but I wanted to give as much of a background of what is and has been going on as possible to make it easier to have my questions answered accurately. So basically fast forward to today, I was released from the hospital last month I returned home after being told I would and HAD to return home after arriving I find all my personal possessions I have paid for with MY own money or has been given to me by past friends has been taken. I am no longer allowed to goto my room not even to get my own personal property out of the house, they have told me they do not intend to return any of it to me and most of it has been sold, thrown away and/or given away. Since I was applying for state benefits(food stamps, disability, etc.) my birth certificate, state ID and all my paperwork was also taken away to halt the process. I am not allowed to stay in the home however I am not allowed to leave the property because I am under the same threats as mentioned in the beginning of this post if I leave and I also do not have any place to go in this town, I have no family I can stay with and no friends. I managed to get approved for food-stamps, when this was found out about the card was taken away from me when it came in the mail, when it was returned I was told I would have to use my food-stamps to pay for their food even though I cannot eat the things they eat and even if I could I am not allowed to eat with them or anything they cook, they also have plenty of income to feed themselves and I am practically on the verge of starvation. They've now had my Food-stamps stopped by posing to be me and providing information that I was receiving a check from the social security(which I do not) among other things which I am still trying to get straightened out and do not know if I will be able to get my food-stamps restored.

I am forced to stay in temperatures in excess 85-99F round the clock which is also greatly affecting my health since the nausea I suffer with due to the pain only increases in the extreme heat leaving me to vomit for hours at a time increasing how fast I am losing weight. I'm pretty much being slowly and systematically starved to death and prevented from doing anything about it by way of threats. I am not the only one who is suffering either, my cousin who my grand parents adopted and lives on the same property is regularly physically abused and has been told he will be the next one locked up in the hospital because of a court order. They've even began telling people he's mentally handicapped and cannot work in preparation to attempt to get him on a check they can take as well.

My questions are:
Is there any legal recourse I can take for this most recent court order which was entirely false?
Is there anything I can possibly do or someone I can talk to about their threats of new court orders, lying to police, etc.?
Is there anything civilly that can be done in regards of my life that's been pretty much hijacked or the torture and abuse I've been forced to endure as well as living in fear and total isolation, etc.?
Is there any or any civil action I can take in terms of my possessions that have been taken from me?
If so what type/kind of attorney am I looking for?

**Mr. Knowitall** · 07-23-2012, 09:55 AM

If you "had to " return home it's because your parents are your legal guardians as the result of persuading the court, with the support of medical evidence, that you are unable to care for yourself due to such factors as physical or mental illness, mental deficiency, physical disability, drug addiction, chronic intoxication, or some similar factor or combination of factors that necessitates your having your affairs fully or partially managed by somebody else.

If that's the case, you can petition the court that made your parents your guardians to (a) terminate the guardianship based upon competent evidence that it is no longer needed, (b) modify the guardianship to make it more flexible, perhaps allowing you to move into a supportive environment other than your parents' home, or (c) to make some other willing party your guardian.

If you are not subject to a guardianship or any similar constraint on moving out, but are simply an adult man who chooses to live at home, move out.

**LostInSpaceSinceBirth** · 07-23-2012, 12:42 PM

Guardianship (AS FAR AS I KNOW) shouldn't be an issue as I've not been deemed mentally defective nor a substance abuser(they do quite a bit of drug testing). I was told I HAD TO return home by them(parents) not by the hospital nor any legal authority. Unless there's some possible way they can become my legal guardians without my knowledge, my appearing in court, signing anything or being deemed by a Dr to not be able to take care of myself? The hospital is aware of some of what is going on since this most recent trip and advised me to leave as soon as possible, when I explained about the threats of either hurting me, having me arrested or having another court order issued claiming I'm suicidal they advised me to get a lawyer but could not tell me what type or what course of action I needed to take. So far I have not been diagnosed with anything mentally wrong with me except for mild depression and anxiety which is to be expected living in this current situation. Also I forgot to mention but my parents were not my legal guardians even as a child, I was adopted by my grandparents before I was born however I was raised primarily by my parents. This was done so my grand parents could get an extra assistance check(which I never saw a dime of) on my name until I turned 18. My apologies for leaving that out and thanks for your reply.

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Not sure why it was renamed to "how to move out of parents home" as that's not the questions. Anyway it should be noted, I retain my power of attorney, that has not been signed over(not for lack of their trying) and my family does not count as caregivers, they've had absolutely nothing to do with assisting me in anyway whatsoever nor have they been listed as such on any medical paperwork.