My question involves a child custody case from the State of: Oklahoma
My wife and I have been married for three years. I have been in the military for almost 7 years. She has 2 girls from a previous marriage. Her ex has never been very prominent in their life, only calls 2 or 3 times a year, and has never kept the girls longer than 3 days. We moved due to military orders to North Carolina in 2010 and it was decided that since we were initiating the move, that we incurred all expenses to get the girls back to see him for summer visitation and christmas as well, provided he send 30 day notice. In 2011 I was deployed and the girls moved back home. My wife and he went back to every other weekend, and this was the first time he actually got the girls consistently. In February of this year we came back to North Carolina and he has contacted the girls twice since. This year he did not send a letter in time to get the girls for his full 2 weeks, and we were still going to work with him, provided he let us get the girls a few days to see other family as we are only going to be in town for exactly 2 weeks. He flipped out on my wife and demanded he get time with "his kids," and that we were in contempt of court if we denied them to him. We know this is ridiculous but still this is getting old.
We have thought about taking him back to court for different custody arrangements, but there is an issue with the court system back home. His father was the Sherriff in our small town for a very long time, and he covers for his son a lot. This guy has been arrested numerous times for DUI, Possession with intent to Sell, and various other drug charges, but none of these are on his record. When we spoke to a lawyer about it, he told us that "as long as his father is in court with him, the hearing will not go well for us."
I have heard about change of venue, but do not know how that works as I maintain citizenship in Oklahoma, but we live in North Carolina. We will be here atleast until 2014. Can anyone please advise on our situation? Next year our youngest will be school-age, and the custody paperwork allows for him to keep them for a full month. This is something we don't want, as he has not had them for longer than 3 days. He still lives at home with his parents, and still is into the partying that we dont want our kids around.