My question involves guardianship in the State of: Ohio.
I have a 19 yr old daughter who has, so it seems, lost her mind. She has completely forgot the fact that she is a parent now and wants to go "have fun" and be with her new "boyfriend" insted of being at home with her 10 month old son.
Here are my issues...she has never done very well in school and ended up going to an alternative edjucation program, which she quit with the agreement of going back to school for some sort of edjucation after the baby. So she has no edjucation, no skills, no job because she has a child to take care of. She lives with me, my grandchild lives with me and I really wouldn't have it any other way since she lacks the basic skills to provide for her son. I provide everything for my grandson, the only thing that he has provided for him is medical and WIC both through the state...everything else financially is myself. My daughter has no income, so I also provide for her as well!
She loves him, but it is not enough. if shes not leaving him at home with me to run off, she leaves with him...dragging him all over the place staying here and there, leaving him with people she barely knows. Then when she brings him home he smells horribly of cigarette smoke due to the environment she has him in. Now I hold nothing against smokers...I used to be one, until the day my grandson was born, I quit, cold turkey. For her to subject him to breathing that crap upsets me badly, we have a smoke free environment at home for a reason. The leaving and taking him to lord knows where with who knows who is a cause of quite a few heated conversations.
Also my daughters judgments are awful! There is a history of juvinile unrully issues that I wont even get into...just know this isnt a new pattern...I even had to MAKE her do his laundry! Then there is the childs father (not currently in childs life), broke up with him about the same time she found out she was pregnant, had another bf off and on for a year, broke up with him...he is considered dad, now has another bf in the picture. My poor grandson is almost a year old and is going to be so confused and messed up and I am trying to stop it. I'm frustrated, I dont want to let her get away with the crap shes doing, I want her to grow up amd wake up...but if I insist she leave and grow up and take care of herself, god only knows how, I am affraid she will take the baby and my grandson will suffer and that I can not have. I have given her an ultimatum... get her head straight, go back to school like we agreed, be HOME where she can be a parent to her child, no more going out and staying out unless discussed and AGREED apon by both of us, and simply get her act together....or....sign over gaurdianship to me, and get out until she can be a proper parent! other then that....What can I do?