Dad Won't Visit Anywhere but Mom's House

[Mom224]

Before we go there, a quick question.

Okay, Dad meets you at McD's.

Dad picks up kiddo, and goes back...to your parents' house.

How are you going to deal with that?

Thats not a possibility because dad has no car. He is transported by relatives in a car where all seats are full.he also doesn't have a car seat for the child.

[Dogmatique]

I think you'd learn pretty fast that Dad suddenly has a spare seat and a cheap-but-legal car seat. Your parents will likely be less-than-impressed with you, too.

Honestly - this isn't a hill to die on. If you remove the child from your residence, and the child is not available when Dad turns up, I can see a judge reaming both of you - you for being petty (come on, it's a few hours a couple of times a month?), and him for bringing it before the court to begin with.

This is why I'm disagreeing (perhaps for the first time ever!) with Catherine's post.

[Mom224]

What about him not taking the whole ordered time ? Can he be made to use the whole instead of half? That should have to occur at his house but just curious .

[free9man]

Dad is free to use as much of his allowed visitation time as he wishes. If he wants to come for five minutes and then leave, it's his time.

[Mom224]

Dad is free to use as much of his allowed visitation time as he wishes. If he wants to come for five minutes and then leave, it's his time.

But what I'm saying is this time frame is what WE agreed on in our memorandum of judgement,if he continues to refuse to use the whole time why not modify to shorten it to what he is actually willing to use? And since his visitations are supposed to be custodial can I get in trouble for him choosing to make them supervised by coming here? Since HE wants to come here. I've offered to take the child to his home and he refuses to have the child there, which to me says hes hiding something.

[Dogmatique]

He's not obligated to take the whole time. You are obligated to make the child available though.

And really - that doesn't say he's hiding anything at all.

[texas1001]

If he doesn't have a car, or car seats, maybe that's why he's choosing to stay at your mothers house while he visits? At least he's attempting to see his children.

Maybe consider scheduling your errands/shopping/etc. during his visitation times? You are able to leave the kids with your mother during this time so long as she makes the kids available to dad, which she seems quite willing to do, he shows up for visitation, hangs out a bit with the kids, leaves, you come home. That way you are not "dealing" with him in your home and he is still given time to see the kids.