Ex-Girlfriend Moved Out, Took Our Property, and Refuses to Pay Rent

[diplo]

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[Dogmatique]

Did you have any sort of written agreement?

It is critical in the future for you to make sure you're aware of what's going on with family finances.

Now, are you both on the lease?

[diplo]

Did you have any sort of written agreement?

It is critical in the future for you to make sure you're aware of what's going on with family finances.

Now, are you both on the lease?

I thought that since we had a child together and that I was the father that this would never happened, I thought I was in love and it made me blind. So their was not written agreement stating that I'm to stay home and watch our son while she works. I do have proof that I have been home every single day with his therapists working with him, all his therapists can vouch that. They know that I was to remain at home so I could help out and be there for my son, my son pretty much needs someone with at him all time for supervision. That was my role, it was never written and signed but everyone knew my role and what I suppose to do. I guess she just felt upset because I was staying at home while she was at "work work" like my job was not hard or important.

And yes we both are on the lease. Going into this whole thing, I never expected any of this, I figured we'd be happy, she'd be happy. NOPE! I trusted her that she was making the payments on time because we never had problems and she really never gave me a reason not to think she wouldn't pay the bills. Why would she not want to pay rent and ruin her own credit? This is what I can't understand. She bounced the last rent payment, for this month and then she told me she is no longer paying anymore. She either does not care or has something up her sleeve. But I'm not allowed to contact to her due to the PFA I have against her and even if I didn't she still wouldn't answer my calls. The apartment complex said no matter what I did she must be present and sign paper work. I can't even cancel my cable without her being there. I can't sublet the apt without her being there. The hard part is that she can't be around me and also I have no idea where shes at. The PFA was served at her work.

And trust me I learned my lesson. I feel awful and I'm having a hard time getting through this. I need to be here for my son, for his therapy and speech, but she keeps jabbing the knife into me harder.

[Dogmatique]

Okay, so you're both on the lease. That means the landlord can come after one or both of you. If they choose you, your recourse would be suing her (once you've paid) in small claims.

I meant written proof that she agreed to pay your credit card bills. If you don't, you may get stuck with that, too.

[diplo]

Okay, so you're both on the lease. That means the landlord can come after one or both of you. If they choose you, your recourse would be suing her (once you've paid) in small claims.

I meant written proof that she agreed to pay your credit card bills. If you don't, you may get stuck with that, too.

So I can somehow pay off the rent or somehow pay the whole amount to get out of it, I can then sue her to get half back? I mean we cant even get a hold of her to cancel the lease. There has to be away around it. So I'm stuck paying for an apt that I cant even use because the other tenant has disappeared? And If I want out she has to be present? Then how do I get out of it if she can be found?

[Dogmatique]

Yes, that would be your recourse. Of course getting the judgment would be the easy part - getting her to pay would be a different matter entirely.

Before anything though, you need to find her.

(And please don't delete your posts)

[diplo]

Yes, that would be your recourse. Of course getting the judgment would be the easy part - getting her to pay would be a different matter entirely.

Before anything though, you need to find her.

(And please don't delete your posts)

before i go own what type of legal background do you have?

[Dogmatique]

I am not an attorney.

(Very few of us are - please read the TOS of the website).

I do however (and a quick look at my post history should confirm this) have extensive knowledge of family law.

[diplo]

I am not an attorney.

(Very few of us are - please read the TOS of the website).

I do however (and a quick look at my post history should confirm this) have extensive knowledge of family law.

oh ok sorry about that.

i do have another question for you. with her having my belongings what is the best way to get them back? she has my stuff, my sons also. Will they address this at the final PFA hearing or do I have to go through my local magistrate? also, both of names are on our apartment. she refuses to pay rent, so the only way to get out of the lease is to pay a lot money, a few thousand. she wont pay this but i have no choice b/c i dont want to ruin my credit. if i pay the cancellation fee to get out of the lease, is she responsible for half of that money? could i sue her to get half of the cancellation payment back. if the rent is not paid both our credit will be ruined, she doesn't care which is why she wont pay it but I care and dont want this to happen to me. and the money is a loan im getting so I really need her half.