My question involves a child custody case from the State of: Any
I am reading through posts. Also going through things that are "told" from many different sources. Those sources may or may not be credible. Especially looking at things from my perspective. What does it honestly take to change custody? I have always thought that a pattern of refusing to co parent and to help with the bond of NCP and child is a reason. Then I am told its not a good enough reason. I would think children missing excessive school and failing school would also play into.
But seriously if the NCP wasnít ever found unfit. But rather in a divorce agreed to the CP having primary residency. What does it take to change custody? I have two different situations in my home. I get told I CANT do this and that in my divorce/ ex situation. Then I see the DH's ex do what I view as things that are to me out of line and worse that what an atty told me I CANT do. Just frustrating seems like no matter what way people go you get the short end of the stick.
For an example, my ex hasnt seen, talked to or been in contact with my children in over 4 years. Even before that he had limited contact. I was told by my Atty until I got custody changed to where there isnít primary/ secondary he can walk back in and pick up where he started. That if I havenít changed the court order that is his right and I have to do this. If I say NO then I could be in contempt and possibly loose my custody. Now my DH's has never been out of his childrenís life, with the exception of being deployed when in the military. His ex tells him he has NO say in anything, because he lives in FL and they in WV. That is not in any paperwork, they have joint decision making etc. She fights about visitation and this year decided she wanted them all summer. He is supposed to have summer visitation. She doesnít comply with medical notification nor let him know what is going on. She will limit phone calls that in court documents can be any day before 9pm, if they arent there the children are to return the phone call as soon as resonable. She wont have the children return phone calls and will only SOMETIMES answer the phone on Sundays. Yet this is accepted?
Anyhow back on topic, what does it really take? When the CP isnít shown to be a danger to themselves or the children. When the home isnít as some has referred to being a Meth house. I know there are real circumstances what are those?