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What can I do to stop this from happening???
You cannot stop someone from speaking about you to others. In a bigger picture, you can't ever prevent someone from acting. Even a restraining order is only a piece of paper. In itself, it can stop nothing. What you CAN do is bring consequences, such as a civil suit, AFTER the fact, and AFTER you've sustained some sort of QUANTIFIABLE damages (in other words, when you've identified a demonstrable LOSS, caused by the defendant, which you are seeking to be made whole on - ie compensated for).


My ex has been talking to my parents (without my knowledge)
She can do that without your permission. She's an adult. Your parents are adults. We have the right to free association in the US. If your parents don't want to talk with her, they can say "no". Presumably they are similarly capable of hanging up phones, deleting, emails, etc. If they choose to engage in conversation with her, you've no means to stop her.


She has also approached several women I have been dating and convinced them i was a horrible person and to leave me.
Same answer from above. But it really has to make one wonder why women who are dating you are making their decisions to leave you based on what some stranger is telling them, rather than on their own experiences with you. Again, can you stop her from talking to other people, regardless of who those people are? No. No individual is obligated to speak to her, and if they wish to speak to her, they have the right and ability to do so. Notice how conversations are TWO sided? If whomever she's talking with does NOT want to speak with her, or she is harassing them, THEY can seek restraining orders or criminal harassment charges against her. Again, those are actions THEY will have to take, not that YOU can take.


Most importantly she has approached several companies I do business with (she is the president of the chamber of commerce) and convinced them not to do business with me.
If you can prove that, take evidence to an attorney who specializes in tort law and sue her for every penny you potentially lost. However, the burden will be on you to prove that EXCEPT FOR her communications with them, that these companies would have done business with you in the first place. It's very difficult to prove a negative. For example, just because my company didn't do business with you, doesn't mean the blame goes on her, just because she spoke with me. You'd need much more than that, and that's where an attorney can assist you in building a case, interviewing persons potentially involved, etc.

What can I do to stop this from happening???
Nothing. You can only bring potential consequences after the fact for those things where you are directly impacted, such as the potential business issues. You have no dog in the fight regarding persons communicating with your parents or exs. You being the topic of conversation doesn't in any way embue you with rights over those conversations or those participating in them.