My question involves child support in the State of: Illinois
I dint want to make this an essay because I know those never get fully responded to in any forum so I'll just list a slight back story and ask my question
2009 my ex gf and I had sex , her and I were on and off for four years (2005)..more "friends with benefits" by this point
In these years I was informed by her that I never would have to use a condom because she was on depo provera
In 2006 she was 2nd lover and I was her first
That day in 2009 I was told by her that she was still on depo and no condom was used
A few weeks later we argued and we don't talk again for about a month
Within in the time I dated a girl who was her ex best friend , when she found out she told me she's 5 weeks pregnant
Lots of bickering between us happen during this as I find out from my gf at the time (the ex best friend) she knowingly was off depo provera and lied to me so she would get pregnant and hopefully have my child
At the same time I find out she may have slept with my best friend during the time span of her being pregnant
(That ruined the friendship between him and I)
Jump forward to 2010 of march "our" child was born , the mother doesn't refuse for a second that its mine
I have my doubts , a week or so later she tells me to come in and sign some "papers"
I found out that I (unknowingly) signed my life away , I was angry and still sure that the child wasn't mine and I was absent for the first year
For the next year or so I begin to come around after she left her boyfriend at the time , iconfess my love to her and want to be with her she says no and continues to argue with me
Telling me that I will need to pay cs
We argue some more and I felt hurt that she wouldn't wanna be with me and she continued to blackmail me with cs
So I stop comming around
Now 2012, I pay 130$ a month out of my measly 500$ a month pay checks, during the hearing I requested a DNA test and was told I couldn't be ordered by court to have one because I signed the birth certificate
Last week we talked ,She has agreed to give me a paternity test as long as I pay the costs and figure out where to (agreed in a text message while verbally attacking me in them which I saved in my phone)
The child is only two and 3 months , if a paternity test proves I'm not the father can I be taken off this court ordered cs payments and off the birth certificate?
Also she has said in one if these texts that I have saved and I quote;
Her: "You know i work and my father left me a lot of money when he passed so I truly don't need your 170$ I'm....."
(Cut off at " I'm " because the rest of the text had nothing to do with this)
Me: "if you don't need my money and I know you don't then why don't drop this case"
Her: "because your lazy deadbeat ass needs to learn to be responsible and take care of our child"
The messages go on like this and have been for the past 2 years , would bringing these messages help me at all?
Thanks in advance, idk if age matters but her and I are both in our early 20's