Re: Are You in Violation of Your Probation when Dv Victim Keeps Trying to Contact You
Read your copy of the restraining order. I'm sure it says something to the effect of "respondent (that would be you) is restrained from having any contact with petitioner (that would be the person protected by the restraining order)." I'm sure it goes on to explain that that means no contact in person, letter, telephone, any electronic means (email, texts, etc.) or even through a third party (meaning you can't even have someone else pass on a message from you). What I am positive you will not find is anything that says, "unless she calls you first." You cannot stop her from initiating contact. But, you could definitely be found in violation of the restraining order and/or your probation if you accept that contact. If she calls, hang up. If she emails, delete it. Don't tell her to stop calling. Don't tell her to go away. Don't tell her anything...just hang up. And, report EVERY time she tries to contact you to your PO ASAP!
Behind the badge is a person. Behind the person is an ego. This is as it should be, person at the center and ego to the back.