Adult Got Teen Pregnant - Can He Be Prosecuted Against Teen's Mom's Wishes

[horseyjess]

Im going to get my high school diploma regardless my mother has placed me in no messed up situations. I dont care about child support because I CAN AND WILL support my child. i could truly understand what everybody is saying EXCEPT Dogmatigue. he doesnt knowing me and basing his opinion off a post. He's way off topic. but i guess its thank you to everyone else for sharing your thoughts. i have to do whats best for me and my baby. SO i will not put him on the birth certificate and have him put in jail. i know he's going to be in my child life regardless.

You really are young and blind. Please find people who have BTDT and then make a statement on how you won’t need his help and will do it on your own. I have a young 19 year old cousin that said the same thing when she became pregnant at 18. I am going to go to college I don't want his money it will be me and my daughter I don't need anyone. Now it’s the exact opposite why doesn’t he help me. This is so hard, I can't keep up college work and baby. Sorry but I have to do what’s right for my child. So she went after support and now his parents are trying to go after custody. He is only 16, but they claim they have the stability she doesn't she always has to give the baby to her parents to babysit three day weekends so she can work doubles etc.

I myself was an 18 year old mother not anywhere near 15. I already graduated, I have a job in LE and NOW could barely do it on my own, granted I have 2 children. But to provide them with the things they need and want. To keep a roof over their head and mine, to keep the car running and electric on, food in their bellies and dr visits for broken arms and braces it is NOT easy. It is NOT something that a single person is able to do easily. Especially one that isn’t an adult yet. To say he will be around regardless is speaking from youth, inexperience and your heart, not head. My ex would be around forever, not so much. Esp when young you have so much growing and changing to do. You are not the person that you have the potential to be. I am so different than that 18 year old that wanted and had a baby with a 22 year old man. I was 17 when I got pregnant and he 21. We grew and changed SO much, he is someone that I have no interest in. At 17 it was great he was prince charming. I grew he didn’t.

Add him to the BC! He is still dad, it will be found regardless that he is dad. If in the future you need support or help, not now I know you are gonna do it on your own @@. You will be able to get the support and help you need. Not adding him to the BC isn’t going to assure that he doesn’t get charged with anything. Nothing will assure you that he will not be charged for the illegal deed. Having him on the BC will provide stability for your child in the future

[cbg]

Doggie, what happens if she refuses to put her boyfriend's name on the BC and then later wants state support or assistance?

[LawResearcherMissy]

i could truly understand what everybody is saying EXCEPT Dogmatigue. he doesnt knowing me and basing his opinion off a post.

She, not he, and you should be listening to her instead of being stubborn and stupid.

This might come as a surprise to you, but this is not Twue Wove. This is a man who took advantage of a child, and a child's mother who is a thundering 'tard. Yes, your mother is an idiot, and if I were your next door neighbor, I'd have already called Protective Services on her negligent ass. SHE belongs in jail for letting this happen, right alongside your child-raping boyfriend.

So, here's how it will go down: He's going to leave you when he realizes that knocking you up has financial consequences for himself. Count on it. Take it to the bank and write checks on it. He's not going to voluntarily support his child, and you will have to chase him down through the courts. If you try to apply for any sort of government assistance, it will be DENIED unless you name the father, so the state can go after him for reimbursement. You will not be able to cry "I don't know!". You'll either name Daddy, or you will be kicked to the curb by every government agency until you do so. No TANF, no SNAP, no Medicaid, no WIC - all programs that can keep you and your child from starving and guarantee that you'll at least have basic medical care and food.

If you think you can take care of this child all by yourself, with no child support or any other assistance, you're delusional. I'm 42 years old, been married for nearly 22 years, have a 20 year-old and a 16 year-old, and let me tell you, kiddo, it was no cakewalk even with the competent and loving assistance of my husband. It is a job of WORK to raise a child in a stable family environment. It will be hell on your own, and you're foolish to countenance it.

[cdwjava]

Im going to get my high school diploma regardless my mother has placed me in no messed up situations. I dont care about child support because I CAN AND WILL support my child. i could truly understand what everybody is saying EXCEPT Dogmatigue. he doesnt knowing me and basing his opinion off a post. He's way off topic. but i guess its thank you to everyone else for sharing your thoughts. i have to do whats best for me and my baby. SO i will not put him on the birth certificate and have him put in jail. i know he's going to be in my child life regardless.

You do realize that you are about to give birth to the evidence that will hang your boyfriend, right? Your child will contain his DNA.

As soon as the authorities start looking into it and find out from Facebook, friends, family, and the other gillion people that know the two of you are a couple and he diddled you to create a child, they will get a DNA test and he will be required to pay the state back for support AND he will face felony criminal charges.

And HOW do you intend to support your child? I am fascinated to hear how an uneducated 16 year old still in high school can possibly raise enough money to support a child. Do you have ANY IDEA how much it will cost just to put food and diapers into this child?

[PandorasBox]

And....let me tell you this:

- You lie and say you don't know the daddy is. Child Protective Services is REALLY gonna be on your mom's ass. "Why didn't you know what your teenage CHILD was doing?"

- When you decide to go after child support.....Dept of Human Services is gonna be looking at whatever assistance they have been giving you.....and making you pay it back....with interest. And possibly filing criminal charges against you for Welfare Fraud.....and also bringing Child Protective Services back into the picture since you may be doing jail time yourself.....

Like another poster mentioned..... See how much diapers, formula, baby wipes, baby powder, bibs, bottles, sippy cups, toys, crib, car seat are going to cost you. Oh wait, here's a link for WalMart...http://www.walmart.com/cp/5427?povid...GNAV_BABY_DEPT

When I was your age, my friends sister got pregnant (both were 17). And yes, the guy called her a slut and walked out on her. He made it clear he did not want any part of the kids life and refused to pay child support, so an agreement was made - you ever wanna see your kid, you will have to pay back child support for the entire duration of her life. Once she turns 18, it is up to her if she wishes to see you. That girl just got married (at 20), she has never met her jerk of a father. Friends sister was working before she was pregnant, and lived at home for years, her mom had to retire and take care of the baby while she worked. So it's not as easy as you think it will be.

[free9man]

I saw a thing the other day that said it now costs $235,000 to raise a child to 18 in an average household. That's just the kid's needs, doesn't count what mom needs to survive.

[PandorasBox]

Oh yeah....having a kid is not cheap.

Now figure that $235,000.....

Your average Burger King job will pay you minimum wage.

7.40 per hour
X
40 hours per week (if you are lucky to get full time)
X
52 weeks per year
= $15,392.
- the 30% ($4500) that Uncle Sam takes for taxes, Social Security.....
Doesn't leave you with much, does it?

Next...well, dang, how do you work or go to school? You need Child Care.....I would suggest looking for a school for expecting parents (these have Child Care on site), and instead of sitting around for the summer, start studying for your GED Exam. You will need a diploma or GED.....

So you are gonna need to put the daddy's name on the birth certificate and file for child support.

[Dogmatique]

Doggie, what happens if she refuses to put her boyfriend's name on the BC and then later wants state support or assistance?

She gets nada.

They WILL hound her - and she has no concept of what I actually mean when I say "they will HOUND her". She is a minor, and they have a very special interest. And yes, HER MOM can be prosecuted even if they play dumb and try to play a game with social services. They both need to understand that these government agencies have been playing this game for a helluva lot longer.

To the point of:

See them walking the stroller down the street together? "Sir, you're under arrest on suspicion of...", which will also likely come with a court order to compel DNA testing. Game over.

Oh, they're never going to be seen in public? EVER? Well, I suppose that's one way to be. But he's not going to hang around for that, is he? No, he's not. He's just not.

If she wants to make me the bad guy here, that's fine. I'm a big girl

I'm also not the one looking at criminal charges for impregnating a minor and/or failing to protect a minor.

[PandorasBox]

Yep. Wonder what she will do with Baby Daddy and mommy serving time?

[aardvarc]

Two words: foster care.

Two more words: group home.