Father Changes Visitation Frequently

[jfazioli15]

My question involves a child custody case from the State of: New Jersey

My ex-husband and I went to court and had our custody agreement put in place. After our divorce he moved to VA. A new agreement was put in force that he would visit every other weekend from Saturday at 1pm to Sunday at 5pm. He also wanted to put in the agreement that I would need to take the kids to their sports activities on the weekends that he has the kids because he stays in a hotel and doesn't want to go back and forth. He constintley changes those times. He would pick up 1/2 hour late or drop off 3 hours early. There are also times that he doesn't see the kids because he has to travel. This weekend is Father's Day and he has the kids. My son has a baseball playoff game on Saturday at 3pm. I told his father this and he said well then I am not picking the kids up until 2pm. He said that there is nothing he can do for the 1 1/2 to 2 hours between picking them up and his game. I told him 1pm is the agreed time. We fought over text for about 2 hours with him harassing me by calling me every bad name in the book. He also was going to make our son choose between going to the game or going with him. I think this is horrible to do to a child especially since my son has been seeing a psychaitrist and is on medication for depression and anxiety from his father just leaving. The prior two weeks their father picked them up 1/2 hour late and dropped them off 3 hours earlier because he had to drive home and catch an early flight in the morning. He tells me I am unreasonable and don't comprimise. I have my kids 24-7 every day - take them to school, sports, do homework, and everything else. He gets them for 2 days in the month and just does fun things with them. No responsibility at all. Is there something I can do to make him obide by the agreement?

[PQN]

You are in the wrong on this one.

Dad has a RESPONSIBILITY to pay child support as ordered.

You have a RESPONSIBILITY to make the child available for whatever portion of his visitation time that he chooses to use. You cannot force him to use all of it - or any of it.