Mother Worried for Her Baby Needs Advice and

[cola]

My question involves a child custody case from the State of: Georgia.
the baby is 13 months now, born april 26th 2011. When I first got pregnant, my babys fathers mother pulled a gun on me. they deined that i was pregnant, called me awful names. he was not there for the pregnancy, or the birth. he knew about both. when i had the baby he came around for about a week or two. when i told him i wanted my boyfriend and not him, he put me and the baby out of a hotel room (we was there for the baby to get out of the summer heat, my a/c stopped working). he then stopped showing up for a while. when he did start again, he swabbed her mouth, at our house, with no witnesses, for a dna test. when he said she is his he started showing up maybe twice a month for about an hour at a time. his family wants nothing to do with her(the baby) because she has my last name, i am not with him and he is not on the birth certificate. we took her to his familys christmas party where me and my husband(we got married january 10th 2012, but we were together throught the pregnancy and all and welcomed the father to visit when he wanted throughout all of it, hes still welcome to visit) were ignored and the baby completely neglected by everyone but us and him. we again didnt see him for a while, just the twice a month for an hour each visit thing, until here recently. he started bringing $72 checks for "child support". I just got handed a court summon the other day and he wants to legitimize, change her last name to his, get joint custody, rule nisi and pay child support. the baby cannot talk and i do not feel like she will be safe with someone she barely knows, but he convienced his lawyer he shows up continuously and had "proof". and not only that, he is rude to my family. he told my 15 year old sister to "shut the fxxx up" and he looks in our windows and walks in rooms. we asked him again and again not to do this. i dont mind him being in her life, i want him to be. i just dont want him taking her off on his own till she can talk. im scared for her saftey. also, im about to go to school online, my husband works. i am always with the baby. ive been the one providing most of her things except a few boxes of diapers and wipes and cans of formula. i just dont want my child to accidentaly get hurt because he doesnt pay much attention, or her to be neglected for the other grandkids over there, or one of them to punish her for something dumb, or her emotional stress because she is away with me with someone she barely knows. im scared. i want some things i could use against him or some useful information. something.

[PQN]

You need to accept that he is going to get unsupervised visitation and joint legal custody. He has done well to visit twice a month and to provide child support even without a court order. You could ask that her last name be hyphenized instead of completely changed to his.

You CHOSE to make him a father, too late to change your mind.

[CourtClerk]

Is your child around your husband even though she can't talk???
What about your parents or your friends?

[Dogmatique]

i want some things i could use against him or some useful information. something.

Whenever I see this line, I just cringe inside. I heavily doubt anyone is going to help you think up a laundry list of things you can use against the other parent. And if it were Dad here asking the question, I'd tell him the exact same thing.

You've listed nothing here that would prevent an (eventual) regular visitation schedule including overnights, weekends and entire weeks during the summer. This is something you need to accept.

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Sure, she might "barely" know him now. But the more time they share together, the more they'll get to know each other. Think about it.