My question involves a child custody case from the State of: Georgia.
I have 16 year old and we are having issues with her CP not encouraging her to visit during court appointed times with the NCP. Here enlies our issues, child has only visited 4 times since February 4, 2012. (that was the last overnight visitation as well) CP refuses to meet with NCP and step parents (both sides are remarried and engaged). Says that NCP needs to advise CP of said concerns before agrees to meet with other parents involved. CP has manipulated the situation since the day the NCP advised that a divorce was immenint. Now the child is advising NCP (and in a matter of fact way, won't pick up and call) through text that we should be lucky she even speaks to us because "the attorney" (we have no idea who or what this came from) said she didn't have to see us. Now, here is summer time, and NCP is to pick up the child from school and return her the following Friday through the summer since this is what the modification decree states. The parents are to rotate weeks until school is back in session. We aren't unreasonable. We understand she is a teenager and has a busy social life, but we are tired of being discounted and not even given the option to have a family, even if it is just every other weekend. Our 16 year old has been given and spoon fed, that a relationship with her NCP is optional. Now that she is 16 and driving, her friends get dropped off lunch before she would even pick up the phone to call and see how her biological sibling is doing.
I know it isn't the right thing and of course we won't...but I wonder how long it would take for her CP to call an attorney if they stopped seeing a child support check each month. I digress...So my question is this...if we pay atLEAST 3k out to fight for what we feel like is an "interference in parenting and poisoning of the childs mind" contempt action, will a judge seriously let a 16 year old dictate whether she wants to see her NCP? What if they were still married, this wouldn't be the option, obviously! Anyone had any personal experience about what it was like in your own home after a "hostile" teenager is made to come and see you when she would rather be out riding around with her newly licensed friends and participating in other "all teenagers do it" activites? Her CP approves of these things because "she is a good kid." Agree, she is good academically, but she is still a teenager. And with a parent who after 10 year still refuses to even acknowledge the other exists, it is IMPOSSIBLE to have a conversation. Unfortunately, the divorce papers say the CP has the final decision on all things, but when it comes to the visitation of the NCP, does the CP have the obligation to enforce the NCP's visitation. (Sorry, kiddo, that is your parent and you are going to visit them this weekend.) Or are we better off to pay the c/s, and not attemt to take this action back to court. 24 more months and i'll probably be disrespected the same if I pay to do what I feel is "THE RIGHT THING"! I love my daughter, my baby girl loves her sister, but how much more are we suppose to endure? Morally, I want to fight, but realistically, what are my chances? Better served to save the money for when my 20 yr old daughter decides to come back around and take her on vacation for some quality time?
thanks for chiming in,
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