Failure to Complete Domestic Violence Classes During Probation

[drthyrd]

Your advice to me was to ...abort my child, in order to feel better prepared for my husband to go to jail? ...Seriously?
I'm fully aware of how to "prevent" a child. This baby was very planned, and I'm 20 weeks. No going back now. ...Thanks though. I think.

OP, I think you are mis-reading the intent of Pandora's post. (I don't think) Pandora was advocating you get an abortion. She was indicating that you could get assistance with birth control going forward if you are unable to afford that protection.

I responsed to you, and perhaps others did as well, under a basic assumption that with strained finances and two children you wouldn't plan to increase the stress by creating another baby. You indicate that the child was planned however, and that just emphasizes the need for future financial planning. Wasn't the argument that brought this situation to a head over money? Yet, after that fight and his arrest you choose to create a child which can cost hundreds of thousands of dollars to raise rather than investing in some classes to help your husband control his behavior? The priorities here seem out of whack

Perhaps your husband will get lucky in court. I am much less hopeful for you in this marriage. I hope I am wrong. Good luck

[Dogmatique]

OP, I think you are mis-reading the intent of Pandora's post. (I don't think) Pandora was advocating you get an abortion. She was indicating that you could get assistance with birth control going forward if you are unable to afford that protection.

I responsed to you, and perhaps others did as well, under a basic assumption that with strained finances and two children you wouldn't plan to increase the stress by creating another baby. You indicate that the child was planned however, and that just emphasizes the need for future financial planning. Wasn't the argument that brought this situation to a head over money? Yet, after that fight and his arrest you choose to create a child which can cost hundreds of thousands of dollars to raise rather than investing in some classes to help your husband control his behavior? The priorities here seem out of whack

Perhaps your husband will get lucky in court. I am much less hopeful for you in this marriage. I hope I am wrong. Good luck

Agreed 1000%.

[cbg]

Planned Parenthood offers many other services besides abortion. I don't see where Pandy mentioned abortion at all.

[Dogmatique]

Planned Parenthood offers many other services besides abortion. I don't see where Pandy mentioned abortion at all.

She didn't.

But it's often easier to read into things than to face the harsh truth which is, in this case, the OP frankly - in her own words - can't AFFORD to have another child.