Visting Daycare

[JeunePapa77]

My question involves a child custody case from the State of: Florida


Hello and thank you for reading.

My question involves the issue of visitation.

For the past nine months the father has been separated from the mother of their two children, two boys aged 4 and 2. They were never married.

There are no court, orders, motions, or attorneys involved, and if at all possible the parents both appear to hold, and possess, the dedicated resolve and determined desire to continue to advance though such a secure, inspiring, and solicitous path.

The mother is very liberal about the children seeing their father.

The father sends money every month to help pay for expenses incurred in the raising of their two children.


The question is as follows:

Does the father have the right to visit the children's daycare during the day without notifying the mother?

The father is not in any way, shape, or form implying that a father has the right to take the children out of school without the knowldege of their mother. The father is simply asking himself, pondering in a way, if it is or if it may be possible to drive, walk in the direction of, enter, and spend time at the daycare, talk to the teachers and providers, possibly see the children, without the putative obligation to call, text, email or in a general way inform the mother about his intent to do so. It is the father's wish to spend time during the week at the daycare, as the father aspires or desires to do so, when and if doing so may simply tickles his fancy because he is the father of said children and they the children of said father, as the mother herself may or regularly does so with their own children.

JeunePapa77

[FatherWhoWon]

Has father established paternity of the children?

At some point, father needs to see his parenting relationship with mom not as one of asking her permission about things concerning the children, but of a relationship where both parents communicate with each other and make decisions jointly regarding what they believe together would be best for the children. That is not often an easy ideal to reach, but it would be helpful if father kept that in the back of his mind as a long-term goal.

In this situation that might look like mentioning to mother that father will be at the daycare on x day, and mom doesn't need to send a snack for children because dad will bring them something. Perhaps a way to communicate with mom about what's going on in a way that doesn't seek her permission.

As long as father has legally established paternity of children (or even if not, but mom recognizes him as dad and doesn't throw a fit), and the daycare doesn't have a problem with visitors, there shouldn't be issues.

Eventually you are going to want a court order. Florida is generally pretty father-friendly. In the mean time, work on establish a good parenting relationship with mom and maintaining relationship with children, seeing them as frequently as possible. That should help you obtain the kind of court order you will want.