What Will Happen to My Husband After a Domestic Violence Arrest

[mommabear2]

My question involves criminal law for the state of: South Carolina

Yesterday, my husband and I had an altercation. We fight sometimes, like normal couples, but never in a physical manner. There were a lot of stressful things happening at once - we are both sick, fighting a nasty virus that we caught from our toddler, which means we're also tired and irritable; and my son squished his fingers in the lid of a toy box. My husband freaked out. He had our son in his arms and I tried to take our son from him, and he hit me in the chest hard enough that I fell down. I did the thing I was taught to do - I immediately dialed 911 because my husband hit me.

He was calm by the time the cops arrived (and I had EMS dispatched too, and they looked at my son's fingers, which were fine), and he got taken to jail. I know there is nothing I can do about the CDV charges against him. I've done a lot of reading since yesterday, trying to become familiar with the process. He has never hit me before. We've been married almost 3 years and we've known each other 11 years. I feel like we both reacted poorly to a high-stress situation because we have both been ill, and we reacted in ways that we never would if we were not dealing with illness and exhaustion. I feel like this was a one-time thing, I'm not afraid of him hitting me again and he would never lay a hand on our little boy. I feel like I reacted way too quickly by calling the police.

His bond hearing is this morning and I am planning to attend. Will I have the opportunity to speak? Is there anything I can do to help him? Is there any way to avoid the "no contact" order that I have been reading about? I have a very high-stress job and really need his help with our son, and an order to have no contact will make my work performance drop, which could have an effect on my employment. Will the judge consider that?

[Mr. Knowitall]

He can talk to a local lawyer about his options, such as the possibility of entering into a domestic violence diversion program.

You can talk to the prosecutor about any no contact order that exists or is proposed.

Don't waste everybody's time by spouting nonsense about how you won't be efficient at work if your husband has to spend a few days living outside of the home.