My question involves a child custody case from the State of: California
I have a 6 year old son who has lived with me for the past 1.5 years. Before that I would get him every other weekend. He does not have my last name and I am not on the birth certificate. His mother is unemployed and has a hard time taking care of herself and her current 2 year child. She very rarely sees her son and always says it is my fault because I have him in too many activities but when she gets him she usually drops him off at her parents house anyway. I have full support from her parents in this issue. I pay for EVERYTHING for my son. He goes to private school, camp, etc. I DO NOT take 1 penny from her and as a matter of fact give her money once in a while to help her with her current son/situation.
Every time she gets mad at me, she threatens that she is taking my/our son back. These are usually idle threats but I can no longer live like this worrying she could actually take him.
Now that he has been living with me for the past 1.5 years, can she really just take him back? What should I do? She is scamming the state saying that he lives with her and getting money. I know she doesnt want that to end. Also him living with me is not court ordered. We have never gone to court. Please help a good dad with some advice.