My question involves a child custody case from the State of: NY

Original order in WA, custodial mother now resides in NY and non custodial father in PA, NCP filed for modification in NY, this was filed in November. All they have had is pre conferences and had the 4th one yesterday, was supposed to go before a judge 6/5 for final decisions and now there is another pre conference May 15th. CP will not agree to anything, so trying to figure out why they keep doing these preconferences.

also, NCP is not called during preconferences and has to wait for attorney to let him know what is going on and now here it is day after last preconfernece and no word from attorney on what is going on, I think this is ridiculous, NCP should be involved in everything, or am I wrong?

Also, NCP lawyer keeps saying, what can we agree on because NCP won't get much more going in front of a judge..all NCP is asking for is every other holiday and 6 weeks in the summer instead of the CP offering 5 weeks