My question involves paternity law for the State of: KS
Hello, this is my first post. I have somewhat of a unique situation and would like some guidance if anyone is interested.
The background: I believe that I got a girl pregnant during our short 1 1/2 month together. She had recently broken up with a long term boyfriend. She and I discovered that she was pregnant when she started displaying symptoms and I got her a test. I took her to her first prenatal appt. and the projected due date suggested a high probability that I was the father, based on the approximate conception date. Long story short, we got into an argument that day and she broke up with me. Shortly thereafter, she re-united with her ex and has convinced him and others that she and I never slept together and that he is the father. I have since ceased contact with her. The following week, I was offered a govt contract job overseas. The child is due in late summer and I am being sent out well before then. I will be overseas until very late in the year, and will only be back for a short time on leave.
My question: Would it be possible to court order a DNA test before I leave that would be conducted in my absence at the child's birth? I would be able to submit my DNA to the lab before leaving. If I wait until the winter, when I get back, I am going to have to let the legal process run its course to confirm my paternity before I can spend time with my kid. Not to mention, the boyfriend will put his name on the birth cert, creating another headache. I will only be on leave for a short period of time this winter, then it will be right back overseas. I would like to take care of this before hand, so I can spend time with my kid as soon as I get back.
The issues: It could actually be her boyfriend's child, because I'm pretty sure she was sleeping with both of us in the same general time frame. The second issue I foresee could be her manipulation of the test. If she is given the liberty to take the child into the testing facility for the swab test, I find it very possible that she may even use someone else's kid to submit the DNA sample. Who would know it wasn't the right baby? That's why I believe it would also be crucial to order a maternity test be conducted as well. Is this also possible?
It's a sticky situation, and usually the tables are turned in the other direction. I think many guys in my situation would use this opportunity to get the hell out of Dodge and leave this crazy woman to her own devices It's just not in my character! Thanks for any guidance!