Re: How Can I Find Out if My Mother Has Been Diagnosed with Dementia
are your parents divorced?
as to the question about dementia: her doctor cannot legally disclose the information to you unless your mother has signed a HIPAA release which, if she does have dementia, is not possible. Since all you have at this point is a gut feeling and suspicion, there is really very little you can do. If your father does misuse her funds, then you could seek to intervene through the courts.
and I guess you could always hop on a plane and visit your mother to see first hand how she is doing. Sometimes a face to face conversation shows more than a phone call can (and allows you to seek answers to your questions without the interference from others). Sometimes you get the true answer not from what is spoken but from what is communicated through facial expression and gestures.
I am not an attorney and any advice is not to be construed as legal advice. You might even want to ignore my advice. Actually, there are plenty of real attorneys that you might want to ignore as well.