My question involves a marriage in the state of: California.
I am currently going through an almost two year divorce proceeding. During the marriage, I was abused physically and emotionally (documented broken arm, documented emotional abuse (including my ex, an anesthesiologist, threatening to kill a patient if I did not do what he wanted (my mother heard this while she was staying at our house), threatening to kill himself if I didn't do what he wanted (documented chat and text transcripts), mutual friends witnessed him cursing me and kicking me into the snow because I couldn't get his ski boots on his feet fast enough, etc.) and raped (have an internet chat transcript documenting a conversation about this between me and my ex in which he admits to raping me).
At the beginning of my case, my attourney recommended that I not pursue a domestic violence case against my ex because the last documented physical incident (the rape) occurred 9 months prior to separation (though we were living apart in separate cities during that time) and it was not recent enough. I was easily convinced because I just wanted the nightmare to be over and to get away from my ex. Fast forward two years, where my ex refuses to settle and continues to harass me by subpoenaing everyone I know, harassing my employer, etc., and my legal bills are over $100,000 (mostly spent responding to all of his ploys). He will not let me go and I was stupid to think that he would if I just rolled over and didn't pursue things aggressively. I have a lot more strength and clarity now, having been away from him for this long.
I would really like to go after my ex for abuse now. It has become clear to me that he isn't going to just "let go" like my attourney suggested so that it is a quick and easy case with "no children, no real assets". Can I do this? I did testify to the abuse about 5 months ago when we finally got to trial. Is it too late to pursue a case against him for this? I feel like pursuing this is the only way to get him to leave me alone. Nothing else has worked, even playing it as easy as possible. He just refuses to let me go. I'm ready to fight to get fully away from him in every way now. What can I do? Any advice is greatly appreciated.