My question involves adoption law for the State of: Californina (San Bernardino County)
My husband had the biological mothers rights terminated when his 3 children were very young, youngest was a mere toddler. After a few years of raising the children with the assistance of his mother and stepparent in their home I met my husband and for 10+ years we have been a happy family. After meeting with a stepparent adoption case manager she, at the time, didn't feel that it was necessary in our particular matter. It has always been a well known fact that these children know me as "mom", I care for them as any other parent would. All the immediate family knew and, agreed, that in any event I would always be the caretaker of the children, sounds simple enough. We simply are a close family. I have raised my daughter since elementary age and in Dec 2010 she graduated from high school early. During that entire time I had not one single issue with schools, physician offices or any other place that required paperwork/signatures. The other children are now 15 & 17 years old. With my determination I recently was able to get them accepted into an elite charter school in our area where it usually takes years of being on a wait list. An incident arose about my son's ADHD behavior and they wanted to set a meeting with my husband & I but they asked if I had guardianship or other paperwork so that it was on file so I can talk to them about him (the school won't even respond to any simple emails anymore). I honestly was floored and confused. I had been to years of parent-teacher conferences, school events and even signed a few citations from when my son had gotten into trouble. I have always been the main parent to tend to all of the children's school issues, appointments and such since my husband works a lot out of the area and at times long hours but now I am being "held back" from my duties by this school. I understand they look out for the best interest of the child, I am assuming there are laws pertaining to the non-biological parent. I don't need a legal adoption to know these are my kids but legality issues are arising therefore I would like to put something in place to where I don't have these types of issues with the school or anyone else for that fact. Would it be legal if my husband creates his own document then gets it notarized stating I have consent/full authorization in any and all matters pertaining to the children? Would something like that work in my case?
Being that the children are now 18, 17 & 15 I don't feel an adoption is necessary since one is a legal adult and the others are soon to be plus I've never had any issues up until now.