My question involves child support in the State of: Washington
I am currently in the military and divorced as of Jan 2010. I separated in Aug 04. I continued to pay the mortgage because my then wife, now ex-wife could afford to live on her own. This went on for several years until I finally filed for divorce in in Jan 2009. In Jan 2010 the dissolution of marriage was finalized in my favor because she failed to appear in court on the final date. 7 months later she filed several motion to vacate and never followed through on them. We had a verbal agreemnet that I continue to pay the mortgage ($1700.00) in lieu of child support until she could afford a place of her own. In Sep of 2011 and after countless times of me asking her plans to move are, I explained that I would have to sell the home because I could no longer afford paying the mortgage and paying half of the mortgage of the home my fiance just purchased. She then filed a restraining order for what Im thinking is to keep me from coming on the property to list it. That was not granted to her. When she didnt allow the real estate agent access to the house the real estate attorney advised me to file a writ of ejectment. I then stopped paying the mortgage and began paying her child support in the amount of $596.00. She then filed for back child support in the amount of $11,000. When we went to court the commisioner pro tem, stated the following: in regards to the ejectment action, he said he would sign a decree if both parties agree to sell the home immediately and if she didnt act on it the court would hold her in contempt. I agreed and we put that matter to rest. In the back child support situation: My lawyer clearly explained to the court that I had paid the mortgage which was 3 times more than the child support for 1 1/2 years when she was living rent free and that this action clearly benefited my daughter because her mother had no way of financially sustaing a place to live. The judge found that neither myself nor her had authority to modify the decree and awarded her $11,000 in back child support along with $500.00 in legal fees. I was in complete shock when I heard this in court. Not only has she been living rent free for over 7yrs since date of separation and continues to live rent free. But now she will get an additional $11,000 which I do not have. I have slept a atotal of 3 hours since 20 Dec 2011. Amazing amazing amazing, and they honestly think that the court makes fair and equitable decisions. WOW. Is there any hope for me here?