My question involves a marriage in the state of: North Carolina. I've been married to my spouse for 12 yrs we have 3 children ages 14, 11, 10. We were separated at on point but not leagaly, he just chose not to be a husband and father anymore. We reconciled and he moved me and our kids to NC in Jan 2009. I cant to go to my spouse's commander I don't want to get him in trouble to the point that he may lose rank. My spouse has been having inappropriate convesation with his exgirlfriend who lives in another state and his child's mother who lives in North Carolina. I have proof of everything. My husbands says he wants to work on the marriage and that he will stop!!! Can I inform these women of what my intentions are so that they will no that I'm seriouse about my marriage. I know that ex will more than like stop but his child's mother won't she will use his child as pawn. The child is 16. He thinks I'm not serious and has threat to leave if I go through with this.