Re: Extravagant Memorial Costs Incurred by Stepmother
I see a huge problem with your overall premise that YOU are being required to pay for either the funeral or the credit debt. It is a debt of the estate and that is who will be paying for it. You will get less from the estate because of that but still, it is not you that is paying for anything. She will be sharing in those expenses, in your terms, as it will also reduce the amount she will inherit from the estate as well.
this speaks volumes about your opinion of her:
why even mention this? You did not invite as many people as you were allowed so obviously her restrictions meant nothing. It's not like she pared your list yet you make an issue of it.
We were not allowed any say in any aspect of it, nor were we allowed to invite more than 10 people (we are three siblings-- we invited 2 people between us).
while you claim to be supportive of her, it sounds like you are the one that is being vindictive. After all, she did lose a husband and, as you said "all she got was the house" and you speak like that is more than you believe she deserved.
well, given your attitude here, I'm not surprised you are not allowed in the house.
Our father put the house they shared in her name so it now belongs to her, and she has barred us from entering the property-- since he died, we have not been allowed to set foot in his house to get family photos, artwork from generations of painters, our own things in storage (in a barn on the property).
as to the artwork: why do you believe you are entitle to it? If you are legally entitle to it, then make a proper claim for it. If it is part of the estate, then it will be dealt with through the probation of the estate. You will have your chance to make a claim for it then.
family photos: who owned them? While I understand the connection, who owned the photos at the time of your fathers death? Was there a will directing the distribution of the photos?
your personal property; send a proper demand for the items. If you do not do so promptly, I suggest they will be considered abandoned and claimed by the step mother.
I am not an attorney and any advice is not to be construed as legal advice. You might even want to ignore my advice. Actually, there are plenty of real attorneys that you might want to ignore as well.