Establishing paternity and suing for custody

**Serenyd** · 08-08-2006, 01:25 PM

My boyfriend of 5 years recieved a letter from dhs today stating there is an open child support case involving him and his ex-fiance and her child who is 5 or 6 years old. He supposed to come in and settle it out of court and take a paternity test at this time (if he so desires, it reads).
He does not think the child is his. She was cheating on him while they were together and then got pregnant and dumped him and married another guy. She told my boyfriend the baby was the other guy's. Then later we heard that the guy she was married to found out the baby was not his. Soon after that, they divorced. She has been married and divorced a couple more times since then. She is now pregnant again.
Suddenly after all these years she is going after my boyfriend for child support. She cheated on him a lot during their relationship so who knows if it is his. The child does not look like him, does not really look much like her either. I always thought she would have gone after him for child support already if there was any chance the baby was his. Still there was always that question mark. Now it seems we must confront it. We have a 3 1/2 year old son together as well. It seems she has provided a very unstable life for this child, even leaving him with her grandmother when she married one of her husbands because he had many children of his own already and did not want her child in his house. In there any chance if this is his child he could sue for custody? I would not be opposed to it.

**seniorjudge** · 08-08-2006, 02:14 PM

He does not think the child is his.

Then he should have no problem taking the paternity test. That should settle one way or the other.

**aaa6** · 08-20-2006, 01:42 AM

that is funny...it should be an official clause. it is usually the man who doesnt believe (or wishes otherwise so hard) that the child is his, who refuses to take a test.

let's have a "be a man and take the test" campaign!! haha.