My question involves child support in the State of: New York
My ex and I were divorced 3 years ago and neither were ordered to pay support because of shared custody, each having 3.5 days per week with the children. My children are now 13 (soon to be 14 in Dec) and 20. My ex is refusing to provide for the children while they are in his care. He tells them he doesnt have to buy them clothes and other items because they already have them at my home and they should just bring what they need from my home. I dont feel it is fair that I have to provide all the support for my kids while he gets a free ride. He has his children taking things from my home and not bringing them back. In one instance he didnt want to purchase a computer for them to use while at his house so he had my 20 yr old daughter take mine from my home, now I cant get it back. I made a police report and they told me it wasnt theft because she has access to my home. He also has my 13 yr old son taking clothes I purchased for him to his dads because his father wouldnt buy him clothes, sneakers, underwear, socks. etc. His son wanted an xbox at his dads and his father told him he would have to use whatever money he had saved to buy one himself telling him that he could take whatever games i bought him from my home to use on the xbox at his dads because he wont buy him any games for it. I feel used and disrespected over all this. I am tired of supporting my kids at both homes and tried explaining to them that what they are doing isnt right but we just get into shouting matches over this and they start bullying me over all this on behalf of this dad. they go around telling everyone im the problem because I wont let them bring things i purchase for them to their dads. His father makes more than I do and has a woman living with him that he met online paying some of his household bills so he can have the same cushy life he had with me paying for everything while we were married. hes the type of person that likes having money in his pocket for golfing, bowling, eating out, cruises, vacations etc while im struggling over here financially. This isnt right and i find it hard to believe that the court system would think i was the problem if i tried to remedy this legally because the kids seem to feel sorry for him and side with him all the time. what should i do? recently my son failed 7th grade and it cost me $300 to put him through summer school. It took me forever to get my ex to help me pay half because he was giving me little amounts whenever he felt like it while he was having parties at his home spending money on food and beer for his friends and taking his girlfriend on a cruise. He also didnt put anything toward my sons school supplies or clothing for the past 3 yrs. This is ridiculous. Please help. He knows that i dont have the money to hire a lawyer to fight this while his bank account gets bigger.