My question involves a child custody case from the State of: CA
My situation is very complex and I will explain it the best I can.
Married in California in 03.
Moved to Florida in 06 for Military
Separated in May 09
I moved back to California in may 09 for Military. She stayed in Florida with our two kids
We attempted reconciliation in June 10. She moved to California with kids.
After 2 months, we were not able to reconcile and I filed for Divorce in July 10
She moved back to Florida with our kids. I tried to stop her but the Judge didnít have jurisdiction because the kids didn't live in California for more than 6 months. I was ordered to pay $2500 Child Support and alimony. Did not get visitation because FL had jurisdiction. Had to file for visitation when she arrived and lived there for more than 30 days.
After 2 months she could not find a job and was evicted from her place.
I agreed to let her move back in my place so she could get on her feet and get her own place. She moved with our 2 children and another child from a previous marriage. We lived in separate rooms and still planned on continuing on with the divorce. She was only supposed to stay for 2-3 months to find a job. 8 months later she still didn't have a job and was mooching on me laying around the house all day. I still continued to pay support to her while she lived in my house. I didn't care as long as I got to see my kids.
In Jul 11' she got very jealous and upset because I took the kids to the community pool and was talking to a girl. She ripped off my shirt and scratched me up. She threatened to call the cops and tell them I abused her. I didn't call the cops because we would of both went to jail. I didn't touch her.
That was the straw that broke the camel's back. I told her she wasn't welcome in my house anymore and told her to find her own place. After a week, she moved to an apartment. I paid for the apartment, deposit, and moving truck.....because she didn't have a job.
Since she has moved out, I have not been able to have visitation or phone calls with the kids. I have asked her hundreds of times(all documented) and she still denies me. She says there is no court order and she doesn't have to let me see the kids. Every time she decides to let me see the kids, she flakes out and is just messing with me.
What do I need to do to get visitation with my kids. Our court date isn't until Oct. Do I have to pay support if she denies me visitation with the kids. Can she deny me visitation with the kids? I pay way too much money for her to not let me see the kids. Should I contact the police department? I have no idea what to do.
My lawyer says he has filed an OSC, but I don't believe him. He is very flakey and takes a long time to get back to me. Can I go to the court house and see what has been filed. Will they tell me when I have a court date for mediation, custody, anything? How do I go about get child support lowered and get rid of alimony. She now has a job and I can't afford that much a month. She is using the kids as property. She doesn't really want the kids, just the money. She leaves them home alone with the 11 year old all the time. (my kids are 5 and 8)
I just really want to see my kids. They have lived in my house for 8 months and now I can't see them at all. I am not a deadbeat dad, just love my kids. I feel the court system is very slow and doesn't help dads when it comes to this type of thing.
Thanks for the help