My question involves a child custody case from the State of: California
I have a question about drinking and driving (or boating) while a child is with you for visitation. My 13 year old daughter visits her father every other weekend and an additional 2 weeks in the summer. She has complained to me before that when she is over there he has friends over and they have loud parties and drink until they are drunk. Since I am well aware it is none of my business what goes on in his house during his visitation (or at least there is nothing I can do about it until something bad happens) I have always told her just to go into her room and watch TV or listen to music if she is uncomfortable in that environment.
This past weekend, I picked her up after she had been with him for a week. She complained to me about 2 separate incidents that happened during her stay. The first was at a birthday party for her 5 year old sister. The party was rowdy with many people, including her father, getting drunk. One of these people was a 15 year old boy, who was given beers all night by my daughters father.
The second was the day I picked her up. She let me know her father started drinking at 9:00am, then around noon he drove the family to the lake, towing his boat. While they were on the boat, he continued drinking beers, she estimated 8 or 9 in 2 hours, while he was driving the boat. He then drove home, having consumed nearly a case of beer during the day.
I know I don't have a say in what he does during his visitation, but I am concerned that something tragic is going to happen. Do I have any options in this situation, or do I have to sit back and wait for an accident where my daughter could be hurt or killed?
Any advice is appreciated. This has me worried beyond belief. If you need any more info, please just ask.