My question involves defamation in the state of CA
My fiance & I have been being threatened and harrassed by his ex-wife for years. Mostly she threatens to ruin our lives (like we have done to her) and take custody of his son by calling CPS. Both of us have been advised to document what is going on, ignore her and wait. The worst part has been extreme bad-mouthing of the both of us to his son and interogating him persistently. His son has come to us in tears about many of the nasty things she has said and not liking the constant badgering he is subjected to. We have tried to request that she not put him in the middle of any problems that are going on. Recently, the ex told school staff she fears we are abusing the child (ruining our relationship with staff). Since then we have both met with CPS to discuss these serious allegations.
1) How can we get the bad-mouthing to stop around the son?
2) Are there anyways to protect ourselves from future abuse allegations?
3) I am working towards being a teacher & this CPS allegation could prevent this? How can I protect my career? Even if the case is "unfounded", i heard it stays on record
4) What would be the best way for us to get our concerns heard & addressed about what has been going on?