Child Support on a Good Guy, Who's Does Whats He is Supposed to

[Jayboy]

My question involves child support in the State of: Nashville Tennessee

i am a father who takes care of his child and provides him with the absolute necessities that he needs, and now the mother is wanting claiming child support because she claims i am not getting simple things like a massive amount of toys and a new pair of shoes every time one pair gets dirty. i am not working at this time but it that has not stopped me from making sure that my child has the necessities; food, diapers,cloths, and i also see him on the regular. we have a worked out schedule to where we have him on alternating weeks and also go out to see him when its his mothers turn to have him. while i also make sure i provide for him i also make sure i provide for his mother also. Any ,and i mean any and everything, that i do have i give to the both of them. i bend over backwards and forward to make sure their lives are maybe just a little bit simpler and it seem like what she is complaining about is that at 21 i am not doing enough to compete with the "Jones". i am not saying that she is a bad mother, she is great at what she does but i don't think what is being brought up are thing that a two year old is really in need of. the thing that is really upsetting me about this is that the things she is wanting is outside of our mean. she tries to provide so much that she will give up every cent she has to things she thinks that are important so it seems like he is not from a low poverty home when he is not,what is really seem like is that she wants to just spoil her child and give him everything he was for him to be happy. she does not notice that she has been doing those things and a majority or those thing do not have a price tag on them. our child is taken great care of not only by us but by our parents also. we both still live at home with each others parents so we are not paying any real bills like rent, gas, lights, and thing. so yes we still are living at home and our parents provide all the major things for ourselves and our child , they cook meals, make sure there is food and things for us and also buy him cloths and toys and things in those manners. they provide us with a roof over our heads and rooms for us to sleep in. the whole child support things is ridiculous because she wants to make a as though she has nothing and our child nothing when he is being taken care of by ourselves and our families, the real thing issue to me is that she just wants to spoil him rotten and at this time we just don't have all the money for him to live like a prince and what i want to know is that is this just or will a court deem this worthy that she deserves child support.

[Lawrence084]

This site is not for ranting....There two sides of every story. It hard when only one person is telling the story. You will find it easier for people to reply if you just state the facts and leave out all the other stuff.

"Deserves" is not how the courts decided whether or not to award child support to a Custodial Parent.

Does she work? Are you a full-time student? If you are not working, is your unemployment voluntary?

These three questions can produce different results based on thier answers. For example: You have the child 50% of the time (if I read your thread right) and if she works she could end up paying you child support, if you are not voluntary unemployed. If you are voluntary unemployed the court will probably base the child support based on what you could be making.

[aardvarc]

is this just or will a court deem this worthy that she deserves child support. [/SIZE][/FONT]

The CHILD is legally deserving of child support the moment it enters the world. It has nothing to do with HER. It's the CHILD who deserves child support - whether the child is living with her, with you, with grandparents, in a foster home, in a state facility, under a bridge, in a castle, or with any other party. Since the child can't have or operate a bank account or pay bills, the money is managed on behalf of the child by whomever is awarded the support on BEHALF of the child.The AMOUNT of that support is determined under state guidelines and can be impacted by numerous factors, not the least of which is who has the child for the majority of the time and/or provides a majority of the child's care.

When people are married, living together, and raising their children together, the law assumes that the joint assets of the couple will be used to care for the child. When the parents are NOT married, that assumption goes out the window. But the court doesn't have the time to track by nickle and dime which parent paid for what expenses, so each state sets guidelines for determining support amounts, and that is the amount that the non-custodial parent gets ordered to pay.

[Jayboy]

This site is not for ranting....There two sides of every story. It hard when only one person is telling the story. You will find it easier for people to reply if you just state the facts and leave out all the other stuff.

"Deserves" is not how the courts decided whether or not to award child support to a Custodial Parent.

Does she work? Are you a full-time student? If you are not working, is your unemployment voluntary?

These three questions can produce different results based on thier answers. For example: You have the child 50% of the time (if I read your thread right) and if she works she could end up paying you child support, if you are not voluntary unemployed. If you are voluntary unemployed the court will probably base the child support based on what you could be making.

Well I'm sorry for the rant this is my first time doing something like this so just thought u put in a question. To answer those questions
1st : yes she is working, she works at a daycare
2nd: yes I am a full time student at tennessee state university
3rd: no I did not vonluntarly leave my job I was terminated

[Dogmatique]

You may find yourself imputed an income of at least 40 hours a week at minimum wage - and that you really might need to suspend your full time education in order to find work.

[Lawrence084]

Well I'm sorry for the rant this is my first time doing something like this so just thought u put in a question. To answer those questions
1st : yes she is working, she works at a daycare
2nd: yes I am a full time student at tennessee state university
3rd: no I did not vonluntarly leave my job I was terminated

It should end up a wash or you end up paying what you are paying now.

It the big picture you should plan for. As your financial situation goes from nothing to something is the part you need to be concern with. Good financial planning is what will get you through the next 18 years.