my daughter is 3 1/2 years old the first six mos of her life i tried everything to get the father involed. He cares nothing for her and wants absolutly nothing to do with her. Me and my husband would to give her our last name. But we cant afford it. I asked him if he could help with the money end of it and he said that if i ask him for any form of money he will ask for custody. He even said he doesnt care but when its his turn for her she can stay at his mom's. i havent recived any child support. I asked him to keep paying it but i would stop enforcing it if he didnt claim her in any way. and he agreed. but last week he had yet another child and in the paper he claimed her as a daughter, i want to change her name and just get him out of our lives but i am not sure how when we cant afford it. we are military and i know if we go through military legal it would be cheaper but we still cant afford the adoption. so i was wondering about just changing her last name?