How to Get Somebody to Stop Contacting My Wife

[mnettles01]

My question involves restraining orders in the State of: Florida

There is a guy who won't stop calling, texting and talking to my wife. Even after I have repeatedly asked him to stop. It is driving a wedge between me and my wife. She has told me that she is and will continue to talk to him. I was wondering if there was a way around her to get an order to not let them speak to each other. Or not let him have any type of contact with her. Thanks.

[Mr. Knowitall]

Sorry, but if your wife wants to talk to the guy she can talk to the guy - and he can talk to her.

If you're an optimist, consult a marriage counselor. If you're a pessimist, perhaps a divorce lawyer.

[cyjeff]

Agreed.

You have no control whatsoever over whom your wife talks to.

your options are outlined above.

[Dogmatique]

Thirded.

This is on your wife, OP.

[cbg]

Where in the WORLD did you get the idea that you can use the law to force your wife, a legal adult, to stop a legal action against her will?

[LawResearcherMissy]

I was wondering if there was a way around her to get an order to not let them speak to each other.

Not a chance. Not in this country. If you wanted an obedient dog, you should have visited the pound instead of getting married.

Your wife is a woman grown, with all the rights and privileges that go along with being an adult in the United States. She is not your property, she is entitled to friends of her own - whether you approve of them or not - and she is entitled to tell you to cram your demands. I'd hazard a guess that what is driving a wedge between you is not that she speaks to her friend, but that you have this idea that you get any say-so in her social life.

Adults talk things out. They don't go looking to do an end-run around their spouse to force them to bend to their will. You might want to look to fixing that.

[mnettles01]

Wow, honestly everyone has there own opinions. However you do not know the whole story. I want to work out my family. I love my wife and daughter. I am not looking for an obedient dog but I am looking for my wife to act civilized and stop playing with my emotions. The man in question asked my wife ad I to help him with his marriage that was falling apart. I told him that our marriage wasn't perfect but we agreed to help. He then proceeded to talk and text my wife constantly. The two weeks after he asked us for help she moved out of our house and into his with our 22 month old daughter and another woman(not his wife) and his two small children, where then our daughter went from being an only child to the youngest of three. Keep in mind that we have only been married 6 months but have been together for 4 years. She then tried to say that I was domestically violent towards her and she tried to get an injunction placed on me. She failed to prove that I was domestically violent(because I have never touched her and hardly have I ever said a cross word to her) and it was dismissed in court. She then returned home 4 weeks after she left because the man in question told her that his wife was moving back in. She came home, then went right back to him in another town where neither I nor his wife knew where they were. I still have full faith in my family even after my wife has been unfaithful to me. I have forgiven her. I was just looking for advice on trying to stop him from talking to her. I love my family dearly and would give my life for them. I am a wounded husband only looking for answers. I am not ready to cut my losses and fight for my daughter in court. I do not believe in divorce. Where I come from you do not run away from your problems you take them on head on and deal with it. I sincerely hope that people can see that.

[Dogmatique]

You're not listening.

You cannot - CANNOT - stop your wife from contacting someone if that's what she chooses to do.

The ONLY person with any recourse is your wife.

But really - don't you see what she's doing here? She's willingly and openly communicating with him. She's choosing to talk to him against your wishes.

Does that not send a message?

[LawResearcherMissy]

I was just looking for advice on trying to stop him from talking to her.

We've already TOLD you. YOU CAN'T.

There is NO law ANYWHERE that lets you force grown adults from engaging in perfectly legal activity. NONE. It's not a matter of opinion, it's a matter of simple fact.

[cyjeff]

I will go one step further.

There is no law in any US jurisdiction that will force your wife to come home. There is no law that will force your wife to try to save your marriage.

You say you don't believe in divorce. You may not have a choice.