I live in wayne county, MI. I recently found out that my husband is in love with someone else and is going to divorce me. He says our marriage was over before he met her and he called a lawyer to get information. Last year he did file but we worked things out and I thought everything was great between us. Well I guess it wasn't. So heres my question. Would I have a case if I didn't have physical proof of the affair? I have a few emails from them that are short but they do say they love eachother in them. I have one email that says she's can't wait until friday. He says that it was instant messaging not a meeting. I can not trust what he says. He's convinced everyone that she is just a friend at this point. He flat out told me he loves her and plans on being with her. I do have a month of cell phone records and they have talked everyday since they met for hours. We went to a lawyer together and the lawyer said that its ok for him to have this relationship b/c in michigan its hard to prove it. I can not find any case law on that. On a seperate note we are truly trying to work things out for our children. We agreed that we would share joint custody and he would let me have them more often than not outside of our court order. He's agreed to give me 1,300 of his 3,900 monthly income but thats all. He won't give up any of his pension or IRA's. He said he will not pay allimony b/c he has taken care of me financially for the past 6 years and he won't anymore. I feel that is too little and he said if I ask for more that he would fight for full custody. I'm not too sure what to do. He knows how to fight dirty and say he would throw my disability and mental issues (depression) I had in the past into getting full custody. He also said he would try to prove me unfit b/c the kids seen me shove him with a barstool when he said to me that I was not good in bed. Other than that they over heard me once talking about the affair. We now make sure that we are out of the house or the kids are asleep when we talk. There is no argueing in front of them. I can not afford an lawyer b/c i'm on disability for MS right now. Also I don't know if it would be in my best interest to get a job and give up the disability to prove I can financially care for the children. I have been a stay at home for the past 6 years. As it stands right now he has a lawyer that will only represent him not both of us but he will put whatever we agree to in the divorce documents. I really don't feel comfortable without having a lawyer but I don't know where I'll come up with the money to afford one either. Should I just accept what he's offering or risk loosing it all? I'm really unsure what to do I just don't want to get short changed in all of this while he moves on and has a great life with someone else. Sorry for the long post.