Friend's Evil Ex Slapped Me
complicated story and difficult to relate all the relevant details. It's long i appologize but anyone willing to read it and give an oppinion would be helping defend against the ... EVIL things this girl does. I'm in Oregon if that is relevant at all.
Meet friend at starbucks follow "bob" and "jill" to Bobs apartment. I wait a minute messing around with something in my car while jill goes inside and as i walk up i see bob and "Darla." I say 'hey' she she says hey, i go inside. I see Jill is inside getting out of the bathroom, Darla's sister is inside also and we all three hear darla and bob argueing and they are like against the door of the apartment. They come inside, and what had happened was that she is trying to pressure him to move out ("when are you going to move out, are you moving out in august" him saying he didn't want to talk about it now). Then he relates that she threatened then slapped him outside because he was being an "asshole." Then she had told him she was going to slap him again and then i guess was their loudish battle at the door as he eventually got inside.
I was sitting down at the dinner table next to their kitchen in the middle of the room the entire time. She continues to hound him (she is incredibily good at being manipulative.) I first speak and ask her if she hadn't said that she was moving out last month (she changed her mind after he refused to give in to what she wanted,) this really angers her and she comes over to yell at me repeatedly yelling "do you want to get into this" all the way until she slapped me later.
She kept on confronting Bob with it and he said he didnt want
to talk about it now, that he didn't want to fight. I listened
for a while and since Bob had been telling me all the crazy
things she has done to him. i didn't like this and said something
to the fact of "come on he says he wants to talk about it later,"
she then asked me repeatedly "do you want to get into this?"
(the fight that she was in with Bob), they go back to going
back and forth from their respective sides, i say it again
because they are getting heated.
She starts forcing the issue again, "when are you going to move out""are you
going to get out in august" i say "darla didn't you
say you were moving out last month?" "she comes over
and starts saying "do you want to get into this? do you
want to get into this?" she tells me to leave around this time. I say that
i dont have to go, i point out that we are in the
"shared living space" of the apartment. She changes tacts and says "but did he actually invite you over or did you just come"(our group of friends hang out at the apartment almost every night)i say "he invited me" bob agrees saying "well i did" she switches back to Bob telling him when is he going to get out? does he need any help? "I want you to get out" She keeps on saying that i have to leave, then she says "that she has told me several times to
leave and that i dont leave" she continues talking about how i'm not invited then switches that i have to get into Bob's bedroom when she see's that that doesnt work/bend me to what she wants me to do.
she asks me if i want to get into this, Bob says "yeah why not," then stops for a moment and i guess thinks then says "nah" then i agree saying "its not worth it" Darla then starts going off on me again as i'm sitting in the nearest chair at their dinner table she standing in the middle of the room facing me. She is close now and yelling at me "do you want to get into this", Me or Bob mentions that she has done crazy things, she starts going like what (she doesnt know what other people know)? I say that she destroyed his motherboard on his computer.
She starts yelling (repeatedly) "but you havent heard what he has done to me?" "have you heard what he has done to me, have you heard what he destroyed" I say something to the tone of there is no reasonable reason to destroy someone elses property. "but you havent heard what he did to me" "what did he do to you"( i bit) "what about him destroying my body" i'm like what? Then remember that she has threatened to call the cops and say that Bob has hit her.
She tells me to leave loudly and multiple times while still standing in front of me (she is trying to take control of the situation and brow beat me into doing what she wants/show that she is in power or has power over or against me.) I say that i dont have to leave that Bob had invited me. she repeats her demand. I say no, its his apartment too and i have a right to be here. She repeats again standing in front of me, Rich starts going over what has happened since he has gotten home he relates a story around this
"i came home we talked for a while, you told me you wanted me to move out i said i didn't want to talk about it right now, You said you were going to slap me then you did it, then you said you were going to do it again so i came inside", She retorts "because you were being an asshole."(I dont think there are any legitimate grounds for what she says, but she will say whatever because she doesn't have to support any claim) She starts yelling at me again with "do you want to get into this" i think she threatened to slap me before she did but i was so suprised that she slapped me i dont recall.
I express suprise then stand up, "you just slapped me" x2-x3, I am still dumbstuck but say "you can't hit me for any reason, i wasnt doing anything. She says that she repeatedly told me to leave and that then i was in her face, and that she had to physically restrain me (i was sitting back straight in a chair when she slapped me and i wasnt expecting it at all, I hadn't even said anything that wasn't common sense and had NOT attacked her in any way.)
She pauses for a second as she knows that she is full of shit, then i exclaim "i was sitting in a chair!" I say "have I ever done anything to you Darla? name one time i ever did anything to you, and you've talked shit to me," "no i havent" "i've heard you talk shit about me" "are you talking about how you're gay?" "you should hear how they talk about you when you are gone" "they make fun of you (my friends,) they call you napolean dynomite, I pause and think for a moment, then said something to the meaning of "whatever a lot of people call me napolean dynomite, they arent the only ones, there have been a bunch of people who have called me that.
She moves tacks because it doesnt seem to be working (She usually does the crazy things after threats don't have the effect of scaring the other person into submission) and starts on the gay angle, she tells me i'm gay, I say "then why have i had a girlfriend for the last 2 years" she stops a second then says "everyone knows you're gay they talk and laugh at you when you're not there." That had the effect of making me question former circumstances (unimportant whether there was more than a bean of truth to this) which was the desired effect for her, she says a homophobic dismissive remark to the tune of "I dont have to put up with that fag" she repeats that she wants me to leave or get into Bob's bedroom, I repeat that I dont have to. (she works by misusing a small legal knowledge to legitimize her actions.)and then trying to manipulate them to her favor thus her making sure to tell me to leave etc, unfortunately that would only make sense in certain cases and not when its shared living quarters with 2 renters i think.)
She continues to tell me to get into Bob's room I finally relent because i have no other options and go to Bob's room, on the way to Bob's room i ask Darla's sister if she supports this. Darlas sister mutters something noncommital eyes down,Bob says "you cant do that" to either asking darlas sister to turn against her or darla slapping me for no reason. both Jill and her sister were talking right next to us as she yelled, when the slap hit it made enough of a sound that the whole room went silent and everyone was looking over at me as i rose up from the chair and looked from person to person.
I walk to Bob's bedroom to see Jill already there. I tell her i have to go home, she says that she would if she was in my position, i leave straight for the door. drive home. Bob calls me on the phone and tells me not to call the cops because he doesnt want to deal with them, just dont call the cops, i say maybe, then eventually say i'm going to talk to a lawyer, he is like alright just no cops, i say "i dont know," then try to get them to write down their memories of what happened. (this is what i wrote down adapted.)
Bob and Darla used to go out and rented the apartment together until about 2 months ago when they broke up. Darla brought home a guy within a week and made out with him in front of bob and then later had sex with him leaving out the condom for him to find. They are both listed on the Lease, the apartment is worthwhile because its relatively cheap and is month to month instead of every 6 months or whatever and there is no deposit.
Recently Darla has been going crazy, she has: threatened to throw his top end Dell (3 or so days ago she broke the motherboard with a flat head screw driver because thats the only thing she knew how to do because she dropped a computer and broke a motherboard once), threatened to call the cops and say that he has hit her (at least twice one time 2 of my friends who were in the other room heard her.) He is in a bad position because he is on partial parole where he doesnt have a parole officer but essentially "shouldn't get in trouble." Darla likes to bring up "who will the cops believe" arguements.
A couple weeks ago darla called the cops while i and multiple people were in Bobs bedroom drinking etc. having a good time. She entered and told the one person there that she doesnt mind "you should leave," luckly my other friend realized what was happening and told us the cops were here and that we all needed to leave. We all left and she either let them into Bobs bedroom or searched the room her self, she turned in a small bag of mushrooms to the cops, some marijuana, and a couple smoking instruments. She thought that if she didnt bring charges nothing would happen. She never told us to leave once.
Bob has done all sorts of things for Darla, multiple (albeit below 3000$) cars, he has payed for some of her college and all sorts of other things, she has in large part lived on his money, now she turns around and starts getting out of control like this. She needs to be stopped and if people don't stand up to her she will just continue so I want to examine all the legal options I can. My jaw still aches and its been like 4 hours since she did this sorry for the poor writing, wrote it in notepad so the spacing is all messed. ANY ADVICE IS WELCOME. Sorry it was so long.
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