I am 21 and I was married when I turned 18. In 2004, my husband got locked up for 12 years and I sent him divorce papers. He signed them, but then 5 months into the process, he stopped it so we could reconcile our marriage. But, I do not wish to. Now, I am pregnant by someone else and he knows that. But, I am not with the father of the baby either.
The father of the baby is a Marine and he is in Iraq until September of this year and has not helped at all with finaces for this baby. He claims that he will only send me $150 a month for 6 months after the baby is born and that is all. He says that I have no need for money now.
I am confused because before he left he had a document notorized by Base Legal stating that he would help finacially with any expenses for the unborn child and me, the mother. But, again, I have yet to see anything because he refuses.
I already choose the name for my baby and he said he wanted to rename the baby and have the baby have his last name. Just because he is the baby's father, does the baby have to have his last name? I understand that once paternity is established, he will go on the birth certificate, but I want the baby to have my last name.
If I am on welfare, and then file for child support, does that mean that the baby wil have his last name? Plus, since he is military, what kind of custody will he get? He says that he will pay for full custody, but can he do that? Then, he said he would prove to the courts taht I am unfit so he can take the baby away from me.
The father of the baby is 20 and active military and he able to bedeployed at any time. He doesn't even have a place to say when he gets back, how can he take care of the baby if in his care? If I breastfeed, will that have any affect on who the baby stays in primary care?
Please help me.

