Fiancé Jailed for Back Child Support

[Dogmatique]

Jailing for non-support is NOT unconstitutional.

Please, if you think otherwise, provide a citation to support what you said.

The rest of it hon - is really, legally irrelevant.

Mom can spend child support on Chanel purses if she wishes to.

And frankly - being in jail to begin with is a choice. It's a result of poor decisions, poor choices. The child shouldn't have to suffer, right?

[theresalakatos]

I watched it myself on a channel 4 news cast clip! Citation, nothing - ask channel 4 for that! The whole world can watch it! I heard it come out of the womans mouth myself! Fox News.

Well, as I said before - everyone makes poor choices in life! Some, worse than others. I guess channel purses helps the child, huh?

I watched and read it! Yes - Supreme Court! Unconstitutional - ask them for a citation.

[Dogmatique]

Look hon - I get that you're frustrated.

But seriously - do you think that THE CHILD deserved to go without support all those years while Dad was incarcerated?

How fair is that to the child?

Really?

Mom deserves every cent of back child support - because she supported that child without the child's other parent being involved at all.

I know you don't want to hear that, but it is the reality.

[theresalakatos]

Are you hard of reading? He wants to pay it!!!!!

In his case - being incarcerated does not help him to do that!!!! He cant go back and change his bad decisions! He can try and make better ones. I dont think getting an education, with a colleage that offers job placement is bad decision.

[Dogmatique]

You're angry at the wrong person.

I didn't not pay the child support. I didn't end up in jail.

You're not just venting and really this isn't the correct venue for that.

[theresalakatos]

I am not venting! I am not angry at you! Again, my fiance can not go back and change his past! He can create a new future. This is a possiblity for anyone, who wants to. But putting him in jail , is not constructive, nor is it positive - not even for the child. Not everyone is a DEAD BEAT DAD! Beleive it or not, if he was at one time, he truley has changed. I have seen it with my own 2 eyes. I guess, that is why I am so upset. I have seen a man do a 180 in a matter of a few years. His main concern is not jail, as you see - he does not have problem serving time!! He really just wants to not lose out on getting that job, getting that education, living a "normal" life - that even his own parents did not give him. He did not know how to be a father (he was a child, having a child!) Does not mean that now, he does not want to fulfill his obligation. He really wants to make it right for his son as far as the money is concerned! He would even like to see him and apologize for his actions! He knows what he did was wrong! Atleast he does relise that what he did was wrong! He can not change it! I just dont think that the answer for everyone is jail. I am more upset with this than he is! Maybe I am being selfish! I had a fiance, I was to be married, we had a new life starting together! We had plans together, to better ourselves - I was even willing to pay child support for him! (he would not hear of it!) I want to help his son! Does my life have to be wrecked? If even just for a season? These things hurt more that just children - it hurts everybody involved. Yes, the child is very important - but all people are very important. Wether 2, 12, 21...... All people are important!

[singlemom87]

The internet is incredible, Perhaps this will help him when he gets out this time. http://expungefloridarecords.com/flo...or-felons.html Apparently there are alot of Jobs for felons if you just Google "jobs for felons in florida" lol hope this helps.

[theresalakatos]

Thanks! I went and looked - did you read the top 10 jobs? The college that he chose, helps place him in a much higher paying position after some schooling - he can get his lisence in a feild that pays him more than that in just a few months of schooling. It takes money to start your own business - he has no lisence to drive, has no experience other than construction. One of them is a labor hall (temp service)!! LOL They are shutting those down in south florida!! Like I said before - who can live on min. wage? Much less pay for his son and not be homeless. You know how hard it is right now to find a job here - period? People are moving from here! When he gets out - he will be going back to school. He can probably study in there! I think I can help make that happen. It will give him something constructive to do with himself! He took out a 29,000 loan! Pay that back making 7.00 an hour, plus child support! One of the reasons he liked the idea of the loan was he can file and get a nice little chunk of money for child support! He can almost pay it off. His arrears. They must take his felon against him, because he has already been rejected for it! Mc Donalds wont even hire him. I believe he made the right choice. Thank you though. Why settle for less, he did that all his life! It got him no where. But thinking wrong about himself! If a person can not take care of himself - he can not take care of someone else! That was another one of his problems! He never loved who he was or thought highly of himself - that has begun to change!! What a great change!! This is a set back, but like everything in our lives it is temporary! I am glad to see for the first time he wants to make a change for his better, because he feels worth it. There is more to this than just paying child support!! Wow!! Can you fathom that?

[singlemom87]

Well his want to change, love for himself, minimum wage jobs is compleetly unrelated to the info your looking for. Minimum wage will pay his child support and get him caught up if thats what it takes. Im a mom who has a baby daddy, who is not a bad person just a highly unmotivated person. Now im left with the tab much like your fiances sons mother. Not that your fiance is a bad person but getting in trouble trumped paying child support in the past (while im glad he knows now it was wrong) he still has to answer to the courts for what he did. Much like by making a child with a man who was a little on the loopy side left me to foot our childs bill for almost four years that is how I must answer. But the boy did not, loose his license, go to jail nor did the mother and they shouldnt do without because Fiance couldnt get it together.(as far as how she spends the money or if she needs it, thats her buisness, Im sure she has given up haircuts, nights out, new clothes to pay your fiances half and so if thats what she does with it so be it) If this sounds mean it isnt meant to Im just trying to help you understand that what the system did is perfectly legal, I imagine the license is what they would have normally went after but since he doesnt have one that only left locking him up. Try to work off what has happened to move forward for ex. Find out what you need to pay down to get him out and go from there. See if theres a community service program he can attend, see if theres any way the mother can work with you (if she wants her money he has to be out and working). And the top ten jobs is a great place to start.

[distressedmom]

You still want to sign up for a happy ever after with this guy? The past is an indication of the future.