My question involves a child custody case from the State of: Connecticut & Florida.
My husband and I separated 8 months ago with the intention of divorce, while living in Florida. We both began relationships outside the marriage. We decided to end the other relationships and work out our marriage as we still love one another very much and were much happier together, the issues that plagued are marriage (financial seemed to improve vastly and we were ready to take on relationship couseling to heal past wounds). We then find out that I am pregnant, the baby is not his, (we did not sleep together during our separation). He was obviously very upset, rightly so, and I did not contest the divorce. He is in the coast guard and was shortly thereafter stationed in Connecticut. We have now been divorced for only 4 months, and I am due in 4 weeks. We also have a 2 year old daughter together. We have stayed on good terms and have missed one another greatly, and now decided to remarry again in 1 week in Florida when he comes down to visit. We are orchestrating the move to Connecticut immediately and I am transferring my medical care to Connecticut, where my new daughter will be born. The father of this new baby was extremely ngry that I broke things off with him completely, he took a leave of absence from his job here in FL to go stay in Iowa where he was been for the past 5 months. He will be returning to his job shortly after I have moved to CT, and we do not keep in contact often. He plans on being part of his daughter's life, but was also open about hoping to make my life more difficult by proxy (resentement about the break up, my refusal to be with/or marry him).. I want what is best for the baby, which is of course to have her father involved so I will work with him through his anger, and attempt to make our contact mature and civil. That is the story and here are my questions:
1. If I am having the baby in CT, is it possible that the father of the baby could attempt to force me to come back to FL?
2. My husband and I want full custody or at least to be the custodial parents, with no objections to the biological father's full rights and visitation. Is there any chance he could fight us, and win custody?
3. Will my husbands income be taken into account for child support, or will it be only my income and the biological father's income taken into account. My husband filed denial of paternity that we both signed of on in our divorce, and is not trying to take any rights from the biological father.
4. If my husband and I do have full custody, or are the custodial parents, how will this affect the biological fathers visitation? Will he have to come to CT to see her, will I/can I be forced to travel to FL?
We simply want to provide a happy, stable, normal(as possible given the scenario) life for both our daughters. My husband wants to be very involved with the new baby but neither of us are looking to shut out the biological dad. Can anyone give me any insight as to what to expect? My plan was to move to CT in a week, have the baby there, then contact the biological dad. I know he will be shocked and pissed that my husband and I worked things out, and that we live in CT.
Thank you for any input or clarification you may be able to provide, and trust me, I fully realize that I am an asshole for getting pregnant outside my marriage, and am more thankful than anyone can imagine that we are giving our marriage another chance...