Hmm If I must share him heres what i have so far,
I want graduated visitation for three months. Then I will meet him halfway (190 miles a month for this and thats just my half of the drive) so he can have him from 5pm every other Friday untill 5pm sunday. (so every other weekend) He can have three weeks out of the summer, he can have him the day of the holiday every other year, leaving me to have him the day of the holiday on the years in between. Birthdays will be celebebrated during normal custody time.
I have more for in the paperwork so he can have access to health, school and any other records he would need access to.
Also that he is seprately respondsible for half of Our Sons extracuricular activities (he does karate)(but for band trips, school field trips ect.) Not sure if ill get away with that one but never hurts to ask lol