My question involves a child custody case from the State of: Wisconsin. The issue here is of my ex suddenly wanting to be a "father" after not seeing my daughter pretty much since she was born. She turned 5 recently and he has not seen her since she was about 15 months old. She does not know him and has known my husband as her dad. (considering he has been the only one to care for her like one) I recieved an email from the "father" who says he wants to be a father. So I started filing custody papers because for some odd reason this was never done when we first visited child support after he was released from prison. (He went on a conviction of sexual assault, it was to an adult woman, he went to prison about a month after I found out I was pregnant) So after we visited child support we thought we would begin getting paper work for figuring out custody, but it never happened and neither of us ever pursued it, till now. I always thought he would just stay gone and I would never have to worry about it, so I just left it alone.
Anyhow. Now we have mediation set up for just a couple weeks from now. (Which I'm sure he wont attend anyhow) I was trying to figure out if I really actually have to work with him. He is a registered sex offender, who is not allowed contact with minors. He also has it stated in his parole rules that he is not allowed contact with my daughter from an incident that happend 3 years ago. (He threatened to kill me and take her. I freaked out and called his parole officer and since she had had many troubles with him in the past with things like his anger and threatening manner she said she was making it a rule in his parole not to have contact with her as long as he is on parole) So along with being a sex offender, having rules in his parole against seeing her, and actually not having any contact with her for the last 4 years and me for the last 3, never paying a dime in child support, and never having a job, do I have to cooperate with anything in mediation? Can I just go in and say I dont want to give him anything since all this is stacked against him? He really is not a good person and it's not fair to my child that he wants to attempt being a human now and come into her life. Anyone have any advice?