My question involves child support in the State of: NC
Four years ago I gave birth to a son resulting from an affair. At the time, my husband, the biological father's spouse and counselors from both our churches insisted that my husband be named as the father on the birth certificate and there be no further contact between us. I did not agree with this suggestion but honored the request in an effort to make right many wrongs. The biological father has made no attempt to contact, visit or support the child in four years.
I do not desire to restore any relationship as it has been made clear that would not be well-received. However, I do feel that the father should share in the financial responsibilities of raising this child. Is there a statue of limitations on requesting child support from the biological father? Also, if I pursue child support, will I be obligated to change my son's birth certificate, last name or share custody? Are there mediation services available as opposed to court proceedings?
There has been ongoing hostility from the other spouse in the form of several harassing emails each year and I am uncomfortable releasing my son into an environment where he is unwanted. I do not believe that his biological father or his spouse would request visitation apart from a desire to punish me for pursuing child support. My husband is an incredible father to our son and he is very attached to his five older siblings (we are adoptive parents of several other children). I believe that his best interests are served by maintaining his current living situation. Will the biological father's absolute abandonment be factor in either child support or custody? Or my choice to allow my husband to sign the birth certificate?
Thanks for any assistance regarding this matter.