My question involves a child custody case from the State of: Kansas
I will do my very best to make this as short as possible, but it is rather complex. My step daughter is 12 years old. My husband has had full legal custody of her for the last 5 years, and though not via court order, she lived with him 50% or greater of the time since her birth.
A bit about the mom of my stepdaughter: She has 7 living children -1 deceased by 7 different men, does not have custody of any of them and does not support any of them. She visits one of the 7 every other weekend. She has not held a job for years, has a suspended drivers license and active warrants, gets evicted every 3 months or less, and has been institutionalized within the past 18 months for a suicide attempt. She recently married a 19 year old she had dated for two months...now my 12 year old step daughter's step-dad!
In August of 2009, her mom advised us she was enlisting in the military. We were very proud of her and believed it to be true. In October she claimed to be back from Basic Training because of an injury. She said she was going to decide whether to go back in or not. It didn't ring true because she had already enlisted. We did not believe they would let her out on a sprained ankle. So my husband called her recruiter, who informed us she was not enlisted, had not gone to basic training, and was banned from drill. Through some online investigative work, we were able to find where she had posted online that she was kicked out for fraudulent enlistment and providing alcohol to minors. (We also have photos of her drinking with minors from myspace)
In November of 2009, my stepdaughter informed us her mom had moved again. Because she has kidnapped her three times after she lost custody, it is a requirement she provide us with a current address. My husband called her for that, and she refused the address. Since that time, she had not contacted her daughter at all.
After 10 months of no contact, then she took my husband to court for "contempt" and claimed we were withholding visitation. My husband told the judge she had not contacted her daughter in nearly a year and the judge suspended visitation and ordered a once weekly phone call. She called about 50% of the time, and when she did, verbally abused my step-daughter and bad mouthed her dad and I. (We recorded all of the phone calls).
This morning my stepdaughter came to me and said she wants me to adopt her. I would love to, but my question is how much does it take to have a parents rights removed. She is absolutely destroying her (my) daughter's psyche, and we feel helpless in protecting her because she seems to be able to BS her way through anything. Help, please!