I know I have messed up in the past but I'm going to be honest because I need honest answers.
Right now my son's mom has physical custody of our son (who is 2 years old). During the day while she works Grandma watches our son 3 days and he goes to daycare 2 days a week. I have proposed to mom that I can watch our son while I work instead of Grandma or I can change my hours to work 3 days off 4 days working. Because we live an hour apart I want our son to stay the night on the days I watch him and I still want to have him every other weekend.
My son's mother's arguement is I can't watch our son and work at the same time. She feels that our son will be deprived of attention, but I believe I can manage. Of course I won't be able to do all the things Grandma does like go to the zoo, park & library because I will be working from home but at least he will be with me.
My son's mom also says that because I travel alot that that will interfere with me watching our son and he won't have a consistent caretaker. I disagree. I can find daycare for him or my wife can watch him when I travel.
Now here is the part that is painful but I'm being honest. I've forgotten to show up for a some visitations, have not paid the court ordered child support (I'm $6500 in arrears), claimed our son on my taxes when I shouldn't have, haven't reimbursed her for medical expenses and haven't done midweek visits( midweek visits are not court ordered but the ex seems to feel that since I haven't made an effort I don't care). Also this year I have the 4th of July as my holiday. I will not be able to exercise that time because I have a 10 day vacation scheduled to the Bahamas. I am not taking my son because I only get two weeks of nonconseutive vacation time and I would have to cut my vacation short, which would not be fair to my wife.
I think the judge will forgive me and understand that I now want to spend time with my son. My ex says I'm trying to get joint custody to lower child support. What can I do to convince the judge that I want to spend more time with my son even though I haven't done all I should have in the past?
I've already filed the petition for modification of custody, child support and visitation. Do I stand a chance at getting joint custody?