My question involves child support in the State of: ohio
My husband and I have been together for almost 11 years. I have children outside of the relationship from prior relationships, as does he.
His children from the previous relationship are now 20 and 18. The 20 year old, who has NEVER lived with their mother live houses away and we talk often. The 18 year old stayed with the mother. by the time they were 3-5, she was heavy into drugs and moved the children to virginia. The mothers family realized how drug addicted she was and asked for custody of the oldest and was granted custody. The mother had already filed for child support in ohio, and then filed again in virginia. My husband was able to see his daughter whenever he wanted and went to visit the younger one 6 times a year as she would not send him here. then until now mother has been on assistance (in both states) which included, section 8, food stamps, medical, and cash benefits. many men came in and out of her lives throughout the years, but both children always knew who dad was.
She moved back when the younger child was 11. She was so addicted, she couldnt do it by herself. (by this time had another child) she started keeping the child from my husband. or trying, the child wasnt having it. she was getting beat up by an abusive boyfriend. heavily addicted to drugs(cocaine). her children were failing school because they were not going, she couldnt get up to send them off. they were getting in trouble in and out of school. they were not staying active or even eating right.
it wasnt long before he would run away to come to our house for the stability, but would go back often because he was scared for his little sister. (many times they would both come over)
please remember he was paying child support, 300/month, even when he knew that money was going to the drugs. we would still have to buy his clothes, shoes, activities etc. all of these things and situations were conveyed to the courts and the CSEA, but nothing was ever done.
they never talked to the child, and when she was asked of course none of this was going on, and she had "possession"?!?!? of the child.
finally he was in our custody on a full time basis, we got him in school, got him back on the right track playing football and having constant stability.
there has been no modification of support order, of custody, and NO ONE WILL LISTEN!!!!
My husband refuses to pay another penny to her, or her habit. it has been 8 years he has been with us. not once has she said anything about not getting her support, until 6 months ago. now my husband has a felony warrant for non payment looming over his head.
He is a good father, good husband, good person. He is a volunteer coach in multiple sports in the community. He went back to school last year to widen his education experience. We also have 2 children together, who dont need to have the situation of their father going to jail for "not taking care of his kids"
here are the questions
Where do we go when no one will listen?
why is there really no support for non custodial parents?
why do the courts not listen to the children?
noone ever...has sat down with him and went through the WHOLE case.
as I said, I also have other children. My childrens father is 30,000 in the hole. NOTHING HAS EVER BEEN DONE!! I get checks for 3 cents, 7 cents, and I am not kidding. I honestly believe child enforcement break families up. job assurance. Its a joke.